We often think that there’s only that much that we can do. Only that many practice rounds, that much work, that much time and effort. Until someone comes and surpasses our expectations. It takes one person to break a world record and others will follow. It’s the knowing that makes it possible. Out of all the things you think you know, which one would you like to shift? And what’s holding you back?
Listening is an active act of engaging with someone, of connecting with them. More than speaking, it can bond people in a profound way. Two people speaking will meet, speak and part ways without having shared anything with each other. Two people listening form a spiritual connection that the violence of the spoken word can break. We hear people saying ‘You should be listening more’ on an accusatory tone. But it takes words to accuse and silence to understand.
How often did you lose your temper or words didn’t really form the way they should and you looked for a way out in the intention you’ve set? The intention is valued very little if it’s not formed in an open and kind way. Love cannot be portrayed through negative attitudes as much as we like to lie to ourselves and tell ourselves that that’s alright. It shouldn’t be. Act from a place of love with kindness and you are more likely to get the response you are after.
Taking responsibility takes courage and a strong sense of self. It is a trait of an honorable person. But what if you’ve learnt early on that by taking responsibility you expose yourself to the vulnerability of being blamed? Blame is a negative emotion and it sits at the opposite side of the spectrum from taking responsibility. If it’s being projected on us, it reveals feeling that the other person has difficulty dealing with. By taking responsibility you can set a barrier between what matters and the void of being trapped in the past. Blame doesn’t exist in the present moment.
Travelling, eating good food, having a good time… all these are goals that we can easily relate to. But everything comes at a cost and the financial aspect comes second when we realize that time invested in these activities take away from the time that we could be spending growing and impacting the world. So next time you’re laying in bed, feeling bored, remember that this very second is all you’ve got. We only live in the present moment, yet our actions accumulate and create long-lasting impact – either positively or negatively. Not choosing is not an option. What’s your aim?
Formal education tricks us into thinking that knowledge can be solidified in three years, with no further maintenance. If we take this approach to any practices that improve our wellbeing – meditation, mindfulness, affirmations etc we can’t be further away from the truth. Often times, as soon as we stop exercising or meditating for instance, our body and mind is changing its composition. The lack of commitment and self-esteem take center stage and we allow all the hard work to go to waste. We are embarked on an ongoing journey towards growth and not seeking to meet our full potential is choosing to just partially live. Buckle up, take responsibility and commit to building purpose.