The internal narrative which is writing our lives has corners unexplored by the conscious mind. We cling on to things, identities, relationships which can only serve us well for a little while. Progress means recognition and acceptance of change.
Things. Everything that creates a hassle and brings us negative emotions.
Identities. Who am I? No, not who I was, who am I re-presenting now. And who do I want to be?
Relationships. Do I still need protecting or can I offer my help instead?
When we walk into a room our internal narrative will tell us how to behave, but like anything in life, it often needs upgrading and adjusting. Take a moment and evaluate your behavior, you might realize that you are long needed an upgrade.