Month: Nov 2019

On Perseverance and Success

The number of negative thoughts and self-doubt desperately needs to be overpowered by the levels of positive thinking.

Success requires effort that doesn’t guarantee positive results. We picture success as a seal of happiness but it’s challenging to perceive it in the close future.

Can I imagine going through with my projects? Most of the times – no. And that’s all the times that count. The number of negative thoughts and self-doubt desperately needs to be overpowered by the levels of positive thinking. If you see yourself going through with things in your mind’s eye, then the reality of them happening becomes more likely.

What Can I Change?

The last thought before going to sleep is the first thought in the morning. This is a strong starting point to change how we feel about our life, the things we want to create, the person who we want to become. What would the successful you look and feel like? You might want to start there.

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What Do You Do when You Don’t Belong?

Look around you. Is there anyone you aspire to be like? Is there anyone who gets you to act at your maximum potential? Is that person someone you know and you can interact with?

If it isn’t, maybe it’s time to reevaluate where you’re at in life. Think about the places you hang out in, the people you see on the street and at work, the conversations at the pub. If you tend fall into linear thinking where you think you’re being active but in fact you’re allowing time to devour you and people to suck your energy – Stop! Think. What drives you?

Is it the money? Is it being liked? Is it find purpose? Whatever it is, you start by giving. You give away what you desire the most – money to start a business, liking people to be liked, acting purposely to find purpose.

So what do you do when you don’t belong? Do you keep you head down and hope no one will notice? Or do you sprint through walls and locked doors to make your idea reality, to turn your life around and to be the person you want to be?

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Surround Yourself with People You Want to Be Like

We all hang out with people in one-sided relationships through social media. Following people on different channels throughout their journey in life impacts the way we grow, the values we admire and who we will become in 5, 10 years.

We get influenced by the people we give our time to and that happens on different levels: standards of fitness and beauty, the attitude towards life and towards other people and generally if we see ourselves as beautiful or not.

All this comes hand in hand with what we consume and we pay for in time and money. A choice that we think we are making is being dictated by earlier decisions. So who do you follow? Who do you let in and how much trust do you give them? What’s your criteria to make sure that the people you give yourself to add value to your life?

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How to Reduce Your Stress Levels at Work

Managing stress at work is our responsibility. We can get lost in the heaviness of mindless work or pause, take a 5-10 minutes break and reset your focus.

How?

  • take time to meditate/quiet time
  • use the bathroom break to do some stretching
  • stand up and walk to the window if you have an office job
  • stand up when you take a phone call

Most importantly – remove yourself from stressful situations or confrontational conversations. People who are trying to take away the calm and seed anxiety are not worth the time investment. Ask them to send an email.

You might think that all these actions will only distract you from your work or that you will be seen as weak. But if you have a clear head you will be twice as effective. Living a conscious life takes time. So take the time you need to improve your life and to look after your wellbeing.

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Singing Softly to Send Across Strong Points

The conditions of a solitary bird are five:

The first, that it flies to the highest point;

the second, that it does not suffer for company, not even of its own kind;

the third, that it aims its beak to the skies;

the fourth, that it does not have a definite color;

the fifth, that it sings very softly.

Carlos Castaneda

The lack of power can generate snappy reactions which harm relationships and people and are non-engaging. Raising our voice is a sign of weakness. The argument is lost the moment that happens because the person raising their voice lost control over their own body.

It is a true art to make people listen and at times the louder we shout the less people understand us. We have self-defense mechanisms that are triggered subconsciously and having someone being verbally aggressive takes us away from the source of the problem, towards the manifestation of it.

Singing very softly things that might be hurtful takes the emphasis from the problem and moves it on the solution. If we focus on the problem we will get a better understanding of the problem itself, while if we focus on the solution we will find a way out.

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Not Having a Definite Color.

The conditions of a solitary bird are five:

The first, that it flies to the highest point;

the second, that it does not suffer for company, not even of its own kind;

the third, that it aims its beak to the skies;

the fourth, that it does not have a definite color (…)

Carlos Castaneda

Does having a fixed mindset come with more power? Not really. It comes with stronger beliefs that can be challenging to shatter. Having a ‘definite color’ means stagnating in a state of being that oftentimes is the result of other people’s beliefs.

How do we decide when we’ve reached the maximum point of self-growth?

For the average person – when they’re comfortable. And being comfortable means different things for different people.

For the seeker of meaning and the giver of kindness – never. Color changes as does perception. Being less ‘right’ doesn’t make us less of a person, but more of a human. It’s living life through different filters of thinking and of experiencing that gives us all the colors in the universe.

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