How Agreeable Are You?

Growing up as an outspoken child and often shh-shh-ed and told off for this characteristic, as most of us were, without an explanation whatsoever, set a great task ahead of me. The task to recover from timidity, to know when and dare to speak up about issues. This can take a lot of trial and error.

Not being easily agreeable enhances the creative flow. It’s challenging to second guess people that place themselves on top of a made-up hierarchy – teachers, parents, employers. When you start off a relationship with one of these people, you get to discover and learn new things. But the trajectory of learning is not linear. People who were ahead of us when we first started might lose their edge.

Challenging perceptions is not easy. It takes tact and elegance. Hating and challenging have different effects. One harvests destruction while the other enables growth. How we challenge people is just as important as speaking up and sometimes it takes a bit of empathy to cross rivers, build bridges and with that a new sense of reality.