The conditions of a solitary bird are five:
The first, that it flies to the highest point; the second, that it does not suffer for company, not even of its own kind (…)Carlos Castaneda
Accepting loneliness is a huge part of enjoying and selecting the company of other people.
It prevents us from developing circumstantial relationships that don’t benefit us, relationships that take us away from understanding ourselves and our direction in life.
Life doesn’t always rend itself to deliberate planning that would lead to introspection.
What can we do then?
- Take time for yourself. Time for ourselves doesn’t necessarily mean running away to a meditation camp. It can be time inside our head that we use for distressing and understanding ourselves, our motives and goals.
- Be precious about your time. De-clutter people, interactions and reduce the impact they have on your life.
Remember: you can get paid for your time, but you can’t pay to get back the time. At the end of the day, being comfortable with yourself has a greater impact on your life than a friendship you might have missed along the way.