Working Through Long-Lasting Negative Beliefs

The concept of self-love is more than what its glamour makes it appear. Breaking through the bubble wrap of stigma, it’s important to understand that love can’t exist without the self. Without the investment of yourself in others and in oneself, without believing that you’re worth the luminosity, the care, the kindness.

Here are some quick tips that will help you harvest self-love, self-belief and appreciation:

  1. Treat yourself with kindness, as you would treat your best friend.
  2. Replace negative impulse statements – ‘I’m so clumsy, stupid, careless’ with the opposite – ‘I’m going to be more careful, attentive, considerate’
  3. Practice love and kindness. This can be through affirmations that you listen to or you read to yourself in the mirror or through meditation – where you take the time to sit in stillness and wish or tell yourself positive messages – ‘I am kindness’ or ‘May I be loved’

I didn’t come up with these practices but I do find them very useful. They help me centre myself and get a sense of calm and belonging within me. Sometimes what we seek in others is what was within us all along.