Self-Care and the Question of Self-Reliance

Photo by Allie Smith

I will start this off by saying that blame is not a helpful feeling because it doesn’t lead to a solution, it leads to anger which is a safe road towards losing sight of the bigger picture.

I will also not delve into the reasons why people may or may not do what is right by them to live a glorious life in its beauty. What I am trying to convey is the feeling of personal responsibility. I was raised to trust the systems around me and to rely on them. To question the people around me and expect them to betray my trust at any given point. To trust the professionals around me – teachers, doctors, police officers.

With the twisted mantra of ‘Trust people when they are at work’ this puts me in a lonely place. Not taking control of my life because I’m waiting to be told, picked, instructed by an expert. Trusting too much and not trusting at all. If you were taught anything alike, it’s time to know that you can undo these patterns and replace them with your own.

I get excited just thinking how much more our minds and spirits can grow in power as we take responsibility of our lives and we dare to trust again.