Failure plays a huge part in learning. We associate guilt with pain and we see mistakes as falling off a bridge without a safety net. With damage done mainly to our ego, failure and guilt facilitate growth if pointed towards our goals and not targeting our self-confidence.
Rather than beating yourself up, replace the don’t-s with do-s, the self-judgement with belief that you can learn and grow. Replace ‘I shouldn’t have’ with ‘I will’.
We get as many opportunities as we create for ourselves. Let guilt of failure be the spokesperson of our goals, of what it’s important for us to achieve. Let it dictate our way forward.