Living an Inspiring Life

Photo by Joshua Newton

The way we choose to live adds up to our identity. Every tiny action. Every single habit broken or unbroken, every human interaction made in good faith or deceivingly. And passive behaviors pile up in the same category.

Mindless living is the easy way out. We check out of our reality whenever is convenient and in doing that we allow people and experiences to run past us. Living escapes our time, our moment.

Mindless living is not a one time choice, but tiny decisions. Look up at the person next to you, engage in conversations that hurt and heal, fix with the risk of breaking, but live. Live.

Self-Care and the Question of Self-Reliance

Photo by Allie Smith

I will start this off by saying that blame is not a helpful feeling because it doesn’t lead to a solution, it leads to anger which is a safe road towards losing sight of the bigger picture.

I will also not delve into the reasons why people may or may not do what is right by them to live a glorious life in its beauty. What I am trying to convey is the feeling of personal responsibility. I was raised to trust the systems around me and to rely on them. To question the people around me and expect them to betray my trust at any given point. To trust the professionals around me – teachers, doctors, police officers.

With the twisted mantra of ‘Trust people when they are at work’ this puts me in a lonely place. Not taking control of my life because I’m waiting to be told, picked, instructed by an expert. Trusting too much and not trusting at all. If you were taught anything alike, it’s time to know that you can undo these patterns and replace them with your own.

I get excited just thinking how much more our minds and spirits can grow in power as we take responsibility of our lives and we dare to trust again.

Envisioning What’s Challenging as Easy

Photo by Pablo Lancaster Jones

People do it all the time. They compare themselves to others in ways that don’t benefit them: based on the results. We all want faster cars, more money, expensive items of all sorts that make us feel wealthy. What we don’t necessarily want is to go through the processes that will get us there.

Processes are what enables growth. I am aware of daily practices that will allow me to grow: meditation, exercise, waking up early, but until recently I struggled to see them as easy/doable processes. Until today, when I managed to wake up on time to work on side projects. What changed? Two things.

  1. Other people wake up early consistently because they need to. I identified my want as an absolute need to get on top of my work.
  2. Start the day with something that I enjoy doing. In my case and in the present moment this for me means reading fiction.

Did I achieve everything I think I could have in the given amount of time? Not yet. But what comes first is building discipline.

The Teachings of a Bad Book

Photo by Christin Hume

Bad books are more generous with information than good books are. They give the reader the mechanics that keeps the fictional universe to a standard of coherence that was set by our perceived reality.

Are you half-way through reading a book and you’ve lost interest? Ask yourself what elements of the book turned it into a painful experience rather than a pleasurable one.

Is it the plot? The characters that flattened inconsolably or out of contrary, the cousin coming back from the dead at a point in the novel when the convention wasn’t set to expect such a twist.

It’s not just structural information that a bad book gives away, but also the thinking process of the author. It is a more intimate experience when a book deconstructs itself in front of you, leaving its author standing naked from words and structures, in the most human way possible. Pick up a book and don’t worry if it’s a bestseller or not – they all serve a purpose.

How to Make the Right Decision

Photo by Javier Allegue Barros

Are you lingering over the thought of ‘what if’ and ‘what could it be’? Are you having the occasional feeling of guilt regarding decisions that you already made while you are going forward with your decision regardless? Stop.

Our path in life is not pre-designed. Is just as contoured as our thoughts. There are two things that will take us where we want to go:

  1. Know where you’re going
  2. Stick to the plan

There are times when two paths can lead to the same destination. Each road we take is a new experience – different landscape, different people that we’ll bump into, different constructs. Would we go down a road half way through and then drive around to take the other street because we’re very curious of what’s the other option like? Unlikely. But if you’re feeling is so strong that give you the power of going through with the change, do it. Otherwise pack it and dispose of it together with all the other possibilities of how your life could have been.

And remember, there is no right decision, there is just the obvious decision given the time and circumstances you live in.

work in every aspect of life

Photo by Ben Sweet

Work is a must to reach the fulfillment we are seeking and it’s never seen as the end result. We picture retirement or chilling on a beach for holidays. We picture doing nothing and we fail to see the void which doing nothing creates.

The truth is that work is in everything, including in the things we love and in the people we love. We work through feelings and thoughts and insecurities. We work towards balance in a dance that can get some times offbeat. We work in love, but we don’t often see it. It’s time to acknowledge it because work is not our enemy. Is what feeds us to grow, to gain depth, perspective and vision of the future.

Love works for us as long as we put work in it to make it so.