There is a huge discrepancy between what women are trained to believe about intimacy versus men. Women often access the romantic dimension of sexuality, where they don’t have to be active and are not meant to have desires. They’re swayed by a charming honorable man that takes them to the pleasure land with good poetry, wine and conversation.
For men in the Western societies sexual activity has been linked by the media to self-worth. Men can acquire sexual capital and get a feeling of being wanted based on how many women they capitalize on in bed. Hence the name of ‘sexual capital’ that is used in pickup artistry circles.
There is a disconnect between values that the society appreciates in women versus men.
To bridge the gap in beliefs of intimacy and sexuality, three point should be considered:
- teaching men to value intimate personal connections
- teaching women to value sexual experience
- growing love and understanding for each other’s beliefs
Are you aware of any narratives that were passed on to you and you might not have questioned?