‘We Are Unfinished Human BEings’

Photo by Sheldon Liu

In her bestseller book called ‘Mindset’, Dr Carol S. Dweck is committed to teaching the growth mindset. Naming humans ‘unfinished human beings’ really made me aware of what a fix mindset is about: thinking that with a degree, a place in the society, a family and a good job we are ‘settled’. We no longer need to work for things, we’ve reached our final state. Wrong.

A fix mindset keeps us prisoners to the past when the world around us is ever evolving.

It’s always striking to hear people speaking about not their wish of not having to work when the alternative brings depression and lack of self-belief. Living life with eagerness – eager to make mistakes, to learn, to move forward – is what allows us to stand out and bring value to the world.

Flying to the Highest Point.

The conditions of a solitary bird are five: the first, that it flies to the highest point (…)

Carlos Castaneda

The highest point we reach is the highest we lift our gaze and set our objectives to. Can we picture sky rocketing through the clouds, out into the universe when our peers never got on top of a mountain? We often don’t, but when we do set targets above perceived limits it can get lonely.

A solitary bird is majestic – self-sufficient, with the beak pointed towards the sky, wanting to overcome their previous personal best. What is a challenging hike for me can seem like a Sunday walk for you, that’s not the point. The point is to progress.

There is solitude in generating ideas and visions that go unspoken up until they manifest themselves. When ideas turn into facts their description becomes redundant and the solitude of flying to the highest point is replaced with a different reality – the one of perseverance and success.

Time to Bury Shakespeare & Glorified Sexism

Shakespeare played his part. His writing is considered innovative for his times and some call it highly relevant for today’s society. Discuss.

Grand masters of the stage are pursuing Shaky’s words in a mixture of classicism and contemporaneity. This usually means froffy words and obscene body language.

(R)Evolutionary? I don’t think so.

Burying Shakespeare is of course a metaphor. This would allow something new not just to be constructed, but to be put out there into the world. It would give more headspace to drama students and theatre goers to focus on the future. On how to improve going forward. Like everyone else, Shakespeare had his entrance and his exit and he lived all his seven ages.

Funny man, Shakespeare. It’s time to push him off the stage and to set up the new decor of forward thinking.

Conditional Loving and Selfishness

I recently came across terminology to name unconditional love as expressed by Dr Shefali on Impact Theory under the name of ‘high love’.

High love is aspirational. Is being able to cultivate a feeling beyond all the personal wants – reassurance, attachment, recognition, love, respect. High love is being able to love another without conditioning them to a certain type of behavior or pretending reciprocity.

“It’s narcissistic to think that we can raise another being when we haven’t raised ourselves.”

Dr Shefali

Dr Shefali’s views on parenting go beyond the norm. From the relationships with our own parents and understanding their parenting strategies to working on ourselves as children of parents and potential parents of children, she deconstructs the world of species reproduction as we know it.

Understanding that we don’t have an innate aptitude to parent is a concept that’s not easy for everyone to grasp. Yet many people feel unprepared. The good news is that there is hope. There is work we can do on ourselves and skills that we can grow to have lasting impact on generations to come. As it turns out, being a parent and a child of any age is a real job.