How to Avoid Anxiety-Provoking Online Interactions

Our attention is constantly engaged and social media can easily take a huge chunk out of it.

How to avoid other people’s negative influence?

  1. Just like in real life, be selective. Is now always easy to say no, but it does get easier with time, particularly when you realize how much more you can get from your time.
  2. Avoid the people with a negative mindset. This can happen on DM or while scrolling through the comments of a post you found inspiring. Chances are that you won’t change someone’s mind, but you might feel tension. This doesn’t work in your advantage.
  3. Turn off notifications. Allow yourself to be engaged in conversations when you’re up for it. People don’t just come over uninvited. Why would you allow them to do that through your device?

We all have our fair share of situations that we need to manage with love and grace. Preserve your energy for people you love or actually care about. Loving others is so much easier when you get love in return.

Using Social Media Positively for Your Mental Health

We often think of mental health issues as being the result of great challenges in life, but that’s not always the case. We live in a time where Western societies thrive and all the basics needs of people in developed countries are catered for.

Many of us don’t seem to have figured out what’s next after the layer of basic comfort is being covered. Throw the distractions of the online environment in the mix – news, social media, forums – and we fail to address what we can do in the present moment to look after our wellbeing.

Passive Behaviour Leads to Depression

Intentions are great when weaponized through actions. In other words, keeping ideas in your head and not going through with them is detrimental to your mental health.

Exercise stimulates the release of happy chemicals in your brain – endorphins and dopamine to name a few. So all that time you spend using social media and thinking of what you should do, how you should behave brings zero value in your life unless you actually do it.

Use social media as a trigger for what you want to achieve. You can have a glance at people who are doing well in an area of life you want to thrive in and take one good, actionable idea from them. One tiny change – 7 minutes abs, 2 minutes stretch every morning, one jog around the block – can give you a glimpse of happiness that you’ll then find the determination to maintain it. You are stronger than you think you are.

The Online Privacy Dilemma

Are you in the business of sharing your learning, skills and experience online or you want to make a start in branding yourself? No, this is not an ad. It’s the start of a conversation.

First and foremost, prepare to be judged. Everyone has an opinion about the ‘internet wealthy’ and their influence under the umbrella of what is considered valuable and what not.

Let’s have a look at what valuable contribution is and how much of you should you put out there.

What Is Valuable Contribution?

I could share with you what I see value in, but that’s beyond point. Valuable contribution can be marked at an individual level or at a world wide scale. We all want to have a greater impact, but what we’ve got off the bat is the ability to touch individuals with our lives.

Is there value in sharing make-up tutorials, hot bodies and pancake recipes? I would argue that it is. What I cherish may differ from what you cherish in life – and that’s where we can say that we have different values and preferences. So don’t expect everyone to share your views.

How Much of You Should You Expose?

Being genuine on the internet, may it be while blogging, vlogging, tweeting or instagraming, is an advantage. Being genuine doesn’t mean that you can’t be selective. If you go on a date with a stranger you will likely focus on presenting your strengths to earn their trust and then a few dates later ease into the challenges of your personality and how to grow into being a better you.

A good idea might be to build up a good rapport with your audience. Prepare them for learning non-judgmentally from your experience. Being part of an online ‘pack’ gives you a support network that empowers you to go in recognition of new territory (learnings) and come back and report your findings. This takes trust and trust is built through vulnerability.

How much of yourself would you be willing to share?