Our brain loves holiday mood and it loves a good challenge. In our attempts to protect us from life, our parents might be removing any sources of stress from our life at a young age. And there, in the warmth of our family home, we feel safe, we feel confident and we feel loved. These feelings are not eternal, just as we can’t recreate those ‘perfect’ environment ever again. Adulthood comes with a wake-up call: it’s hard to be confident. But this statement doesn’t help us, doesn’t reveal how we can overcome the challenge. Confidence is brought by doing something uncomfortable every single day. And once you go back into holiday mode, just as those love handles reappear, self-confidence vanishes. Look at the level of confidence today to understand how much effort you’ve put in today in overcoming your boundaries.
There are days when your mind listens to you but not your body. When you feel able, but have limitations. That’s okay. Listening to your body means acknowledging what is happening within you as oppose to what you want the reality to be. Give yourself time to recover and focus on creating the reality once you are ready. Make sure you don’t extend your body’s limitations unnecessarily. Being fair to yourself also means taking a break when you need to and pressing on when you can.
Have you ever dreamed of walking up, getting ready in 30 minutes, entering an audience of 1,000 people and delivering a candid, funny, yet meaningful speech? With some people fearing public speaking more than they fear death, it’s so much more important to consider exercise and preparation ahead of every task, big or small – but more importantly if there’s something that we’ve never done before. The first step is, in this example, to practice not just the speech, but the delivery, the room, reactions, joy and fulfillment beforehand through the power of imagination. Our brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and the product of our imagination, which is why worrying scenarios feel so real. So do yourself a favor and put yourself in positive situations by starting with what’s happening inside your mind.
You only have control over your own actions, so why waste time and energy over things that can only impact them of you allow them to? Radically accept everyone around you. Accept their decisions, their stories, their views. Accepting is more helpful than fighting forces and attracting consequences. Acceptance allows you to go through life by focusing on what you can do better, and it all starts with accepting who you are now.
Encouraging yourself is more than optimism, is a huge part of what makes things happen. Don’t throw negativity at yourself, build yourself up. Through words and action than will get you where you want to be in life. Your coordinates are not fixed. Growth, happiness, wealth – nothing is fixed. Make it your goal to aim up and aim high.
Our brain seeks to rationalize human behavior, forgetting that there are part of us that don’t make sense to our mind. Reactions or actions that don’t align with a script can be stigmatized. They make us feel good and in our right to point at others. And although it might always feel right, it’s never true. We are the masters of our own life. We don’t own our children, partners, friends and family. We only have what we build and are what we grow into being.