Our thoughts create certain emotional states. You might think – it’s what happens that makes me feel happy or sad – but what happens is being taken on board by us and we usually have a reaction to it. This doesn’t mean that the reaction cannot be negative, but taking control and allowing ourselves to feel feelings that serve us well is important. Do you get any long-term benefits from lashing out, feeling anxious or sad? Do you get any benefits at all? Although we do have a wide range of emotions to play with, we don’t really have to explore the whole palette. Keep you emotions in check, choose what you feel.
Working from home, being housebound due to health conditions or self-isolation to meet deadlines can cause strain on our emotional wellbeing. Our lives get enriched through human interaction and the lack of it might go unnoticed only for that long.
One of the main issues with not changing the environment we are in is that we don’t realize how fast time passes. Losing track of time doing things that don’t benefit us is worse if we have no one around to look for advice or get support from.
Here are some tips to help you make the most out of the time that you need to spend on your on:
- set the top two priorities for the day
- create a plan of how to meet them
- reward yourself with human interaction – plan a call or text/email someone
- plan a short exercise routine
- create a ‘feeling low kit’ with all the essentials and set a timer on how long you’re allowing yourself to feel low for
Even when we choose loneliness, it can be daunting. Reach out to people, check in on them and open up as much as you feel comfortable. The conversation around mental health has only just started and social isolation goes beyond the statistics.
Parenthood is a fascinating topic. Without children of my own, I filter any information, studies or comments on parenthood through my experience as a child and more recently through the experience of being an auntie.
The Unknowns of Parenthood. Auncle Edition.
Parents can have a difficult time adjusting to the new beings they’ve brought into the world. Auncles (aunties and uncles) don’t have the luxury of displaying difficulty. They’re not sleep deprived, worried and anxious all the time because of this being that they’re responsible for on the clock. And yet relationships, family dynamics and expectations change.
So what are the challenges:
- getting comfortable (from holding the baby, feeding and changing nappies to family dynamics and difficult conversations)
- knowing what is asked of you as an ‘occasional support partner’ or entertainment factory
- understanding how much of being you is the right dose before being told off by the parents
- growing a relationship with the niblings (niece or nephew) that stands on its own
- nurturing the existing relationship with the parents
- taking a step back when things are not within your control
- decide how much of ‘that’ life is ‘your’ life
Are you aware of different elements that form your journey as an auncle? If so, did I miss any?
Managing stress at work is our responsibility. We can get lost in the heaviness of mindless work or pause, take a 5-10 minutes break and reset your focus.
- take time to meditate/quiet time
- use the bathroom break to do some stretching
- stand up and walk to the window if you have an office job
- stand up when you take a phone call
Most importantly – remove yourself from stressful situations or confrontational conversations. People who are trying to take away the calm and seed anxiety are not worth the time investment. Ask them to send an email.
You might think that all these actions will only distract you from your work or that you will be seen as weak. But if you have a clear head you will be twice as effective. Living a conscious life takes time. So take the time you need to improve your life and to look after your wellbeing.