the Gift of Importance

Photo by Shirly Niv Marton 

We all want to feel valued. Making others feel important is more likely to bring us friends than building ourselves up by belittling people. Since we all have something to offer, there is great value focusing on what a person does well rather than the points that are not aligned with our own stance.

Respect is earned, but is it? If respect is earned, wouldn’t it mean that we always have to prove ourselves to other people? And in that search, aren’t we moving further and further away from our true nature?

Balancing truthfulness with appreciation is not easy, but reprogramming the mind can happen through practice. Our thinking patterns are thoughts that became habits. Habits can change. We can change as a result of that. And we can start by acknowledging that we don’t need validation, but if other people do, that’s fine – we have plenty to offer.

The Power of What You Can’t Control

Photo by Dan Gold

I’ve let peace settle in today in a situation that usually would cause me annoyance, to say the least. It wasn’t a day any different that yesterday or the day before, and yet I had the ability to look at the beginning of an emotion and smile.

This incredible superpower came unexpectedly but looking back I can appreciate actions I took to build myself up for that moment. Here are some things that come into mind:

  • affirmations of self-worth (many reactions are cause by our own insecurities)
  • reading on Mindset (by Dr Carol S Dweck)
  • reflection
  • clarifying my goals
  • practicing gratitude

All these practices compound into one moment that could have turn a good day into a bad one if I allowed it to. Give yourself the power to accept what is not within your control and you’ll save yourself high amounts of negative energy.