Do you ever beat yourself up before even attempting to do something new? And what does that do to your self-esteem? The ‘what if’ mindset has been passed on to us with love, but putting worse case scenario first takes away our focus from what we want to achieve. If you hear yourself wondering what if, be grateful and push forward. This means you’re walking unexplored land that guarantees growth and with enough effort, success.
Only through setting an aim can we achieve it. Otherwise, regardless if we are doing many tasks, if they don’t amount to something that we are proud of, we will spend our entire life chasing things outside us to make us happy. If you know that tomorrow you will be in a different place from where you were today, both in time and space, in the universe, would you choose where you want to be?
Confidence isn’t confrontation or stepping on someone else to feel high. It’s walking with grace knowing that whatever happens you’ve got this. It’s the inner battle, the wishes and the doubts, the effort and the failures that lead to success. They all build confidence when we make sure that we don’t hurt others in the process of getting big. At that point, the illusion of confidence is just that, an illusion.
If anything doesn’t go according to plan, what do you do? Do you complain and moan? Do you throw guilt around? Or do you regroup, reassess and replan? It may be easier to give up, but it’s harder to live your whole life without knowing that you’ve given your best. Every. Single. Time.
It might sound radical, but when was greatness achieved as a result of sluggish work ethic combined with wishes rather than must’s? If you’re worried that once you’ve reached a goal you’ll have nothing to look forward to, stop. Stop treating reality as an experience that ends without you. You can stay connected, create and be aware for as long as you have consciousness. Allow yourself to live in the present and make every minute worth wile.
We may think that being positive won’t do much for us or that we are chasing butterflies in doing so. It’s true that it’s easier easier to live with negative self-talk than building-up the positive inner voice, and although the positive self-talk will take time to prove its efficiency, this will help us in all areas of life.
Imagine a blue canvas that you want to cover in yellow acrylic. It takes multiple layers of paint to no longer see the blue, multiple strokes of the brush and time in between for the paint to settle. But seeing the picture, we still get a feel of what it used to be. So the process of change isn’t just a physical process, but how we frame the new reality.
Take a look at your own canvas. There might be strokes and colors of all sorts, but if you take a step back, as the light helps blend all colors in our field of vision, what do you see? Is it time to start painting?