The Reality of Sharing Ideas with the Inner Circle

Photo by Etienne Boulanger

If you’re passed that stage in your life when grownups look at you with empathy and tell you You can do whatever you set your mind to, you might feel like you need reassurance for every idea, big or small. But as we grow up and the reality of social norms and the expectations of fitting into the 9-5 pattern kick in, people who are emotionally invested might not be best fit to run by ideas.

You might be thinking – hang on a second, my mom, grandpa or loyal puppy have my best interest at heart. And although that might be the case, new avenues are always scary. Not just for ourselves, but for the people we care about (you can read more about limiting mindsets in the piece on How Much Can You Handle?). Being supportive of new ideas takes an openness that someone else’s judgement might also work. It also takes accepting that even if no one in the family or in the whole world dared to aim so high, that doesn’t mean that it cannot be done.

In the idea phase of a project, when our self-confidence is so fragile, why give an opportunity to nay sayers to deray us? What do we have to lose, ultimately? If it is time you are worried about, it will be time invested in learning. Money? Don’t invest what you can’t afford losing. Failure? You fail if you don’t learn anything from the experience and as a wise mind once said, if you don’t try, you fail by default.

Are You Working for Your Dreams or for Other People’s Dreams?

Photo by Andrik Langfield

Every now and then the time comes to face the way things fall into place in our lives. This can be caused by the way we are treated or by seeing things that we wish we can fix and we feel like we don’t have the power to do it. When we look around us and the way we live our life is not a reflection of our aspirations or of the road that will take us there, it’s time to reassess where we’re standing and who we truly serve.

Serving a purpose is different from being a tool in someone’s toolkit. Due to market changes and our own perceived needs, we often jump at the first chance we get. Saying no to opportunity is part of the process of discovering and/or creating opportunities that allow us to grow towards fulfilling our true potential.

Building ourselves up towards fulfilling our dreams is more likely to help us live a life of purpose and a life of no regrets. Stand up for yourself. Serve a purpose you chose.

The Concrete Attitude

Photo by Lovie Tey

In our urban lives we expect nature to be when and where it suits us: water in the lake, greenery in the park and plants in pots. To protect out attitude of sealing the earth in layers of concrete we’ve stripped down the ground from positives and turned it into mud.

The concrete attitude reflects our need of being in control and having security. But just as our relationship with Mother Earth got damaged, this attitude is equally detrimental in how we connect with others. It shows our inability of going through mud and washing up afterwards, or taking a jump over a puddle. Simply put, expecting things to go according to plan impacts our resilience.

If you need concrete in your life, leave room for the flowers and wild plants to emerge from the ground. A small crack can bring just enough room for growth.

Believing that Something Is Possible Makes it so

Photo by Charles Deluvio

Impossible is quite a primitive world. Looking around us and thinking that everything was either invented or discovered is a belief that could hold back our evolution as species. But just as in the glorious unjustified times of war people back home need to keep the economy prosperous, progress wouldn’t be possible without minimum standards being maintained in the society.

And yet it takes courage to take risks. To risk of being told by those around you that your idea is… great without any real feedback, the risk of being perceived as ‘other’ for wanting to turn systems around or build something that the world not only thought impossible, but couldn’t see value in it.

Seeking validation at early stages of building the impossible can be harmful to creating innovation. People who are afraid of the impossible will see legitimacy in you only when the possibility is real. And people of the the impossible, just like you, they are committed to their own mirage and recreation of the reality. The message can be that you’re on your own, but more than that, remember that a strong belief of what can be done will help you turn the impossible into possible.

‘You Won’t Be the Same Person One Year from Now’

Photo by J-S Romeo

That’s what I was told when I started a new job. And it’s true, I wasn’t the same person one year from then. Was it due to the role? Maybe 10%, yes. But being in that place as part of my journey played a great part in what I wanted to outgrow – my limited beliefs, the power that I allow people to have on me and daring to want more and ask for it.

We hear of people traveling who are hoping that the experience will change them. Instead, they take their biases, views and assumption everywhere they go. A luggage costing them their own development. A place or a story can only touch us if we allow it. We tend to count more on other people’s views and discount the learning from simple things – people watching or observing different cultures.

What I’ve learnt is that growing is important, but the direction of growth adds more value to our life and to what we have to offer. Knowing that you won’t be the same person one year from now, tell me, what direction are you planning on growing in?

Caring About Mother Earth. Vegan Edition

Photo by Aleksandar Kanizaj

February is a good month to anticipate all the greenery and warmth that people in some parts of the wold are experiencing for the first time this year. It’s as good of a reason of appreciation for the gifts that we’re receiving in abundance:

  • rain and sun for generous crops
  • perfect temperatures for our species
  • shelter

We sometimes forget that our mother, Mother Earth that is, she’s not parenting only our species. We sometimes act like children seeking attention who instead of teasing our siblings we straight up chop them, boil them and consume them. That’s the worst case scenario. Milder versions include eating breast milk from new moms and the ‘eggs’ of not yet formed beings.

February is a good month to share more of the overall resources that we have and think through decisions that we might have never ran them through our mind’s filter.

We are all earthers. Wearing clothes doesn’t make us superior, generosity does.