We’ve all witnessed global changes in the past few months and how they tie in with people’s ability to adjust, learn and grow. Building a temple of stillness within doesn’t lock out stimuli that help us grow, it helps us witness events calmly and move into a peaceful direction of growth. It is anger what keeps the teachings of outer events away and deprives us from self-development. When we negate the reality of other people and the state of the world and instead we use them as an opportunity to harvest anger, we choose involution over evolution. Our power comes from within and opening the doors to compassion and understanding is what puts our power at the service of the good.
Love and labeling don’t go hand in hand. As tempted as we may be to label feelings, reactions, people or things happening into our life, we have the power to set them free from patterns that harm us. We have the power to free ourselves from emotions that don’t serve us. Criticism of others or ourselves can only be useful when it brings actionable thoughts. On your walks or talks today, keep an open mind about whatever might come your way. Nothing can touch you unless you let it.
Anger is one of the most threatening emotional states. Due to its intensity, it overclouds our judgement and leaves us bare. Once consumed by it we feel small and helpless, not to mention how anyone who sensed our rage might feel.
The bridge from anger to serenity needs to be build up from both directions – managing the external and the internal. Serenity is a self-contained state of calm, while anger is disturbance and aggressive behavior. At times of serenity we can take the opportunity and unpack triggers, understand the source of our reactions. In times of anger we need to look at ourselves through someone else’s eyes and learn how to navigate feelings that don’t benefit us.
Life is not a straight line. Anger is a sign of weakness or lack. Anger is a sign that we need to work harder to understand ourselves and others. And once we address whatever it is that anger is trying to show us, we can make room for serenity.
We pride ourselves with our ability to think, but when it comes to pressure and perceived threats we are not always making conscious decisions. From ‘I can’t find my keys before going to work’ to fear of public speaking, deadlines or our views being challenged – everything takes a certain level of awareness. Panic leaves little room to clear thinking.
Long-term practices such as meditation or floatation tanks deal with the backlog of accumulated stress, but what can we do in the moment? It’s as easy as breathing, but taking deep breaths isn’t a natural reaction when our heart is racing. This is why it’s good to have prompts either around the place (environmental design) or a person that can keep you accountable and guide you.
It takes strength to acknowledge the weakness of when our prefrontal cortex takes over. Once we accept the reality of the situation, we can move through regulating our body, telling it to obey us and then plan according to what the reality is, rather than what it looks like.
The tone of voice gives away more than words do – it’s accountable for 55% of the meaning of the conversation. How come we are paying so little attention to it?
Just like spoken word was taught and learnt, voice inflections are the reflection of how the people we surround ourselves by speak. Shouting is one of the shocking uses of the voice that creates build up, negativity, anger. If we heard shouting rather than expressing emotions in an articulated way, we will likely think of that as normal behavior and perpetuate it.
Why stop shouting?
- deal with your emotions in a controlled way
- share your fears rather than anger-sharing words
- heal instead of amplifying pain
Use your calm voice and life might get better bit by bit.