Focus Means Saying No to Cool Ideas

Photo by Toa Heftiba

It was more than once that I was called an idiot which at a very young age was described to me as ‘a person with ideas’. It didn’t take long to understand that ideas are worth something, so I would explore every corner of my creativity trying to impress my audience. Only later to understand that ideas that are not implemented are mere entertainment.

Focus and creativity can make a great pair, but creativity needs discipline. To complete any piece of work we need focus. We need to take out our notebook and write down our ideas. Picture a child chasing a butterfly until a more flashy, beautifully painted one comes along. Chances are that the first butterfly that was chased is at a considerable distance by the time the child realizes the distraction.

Eliminating distractions can be painful in the beginning, which is why seeing our life through the eyes of our future-self numbs the pain and allows us to accumulate uplifting decisions and actions that will bring change and rewards. Become now who you want to be tomorrow.

Yesterday. No Longer You

Photo by Daniel Olah

Change happens in an instant, what takes time is the process leading to it. And even though we might not know it, internal processes are always in action, shifting our behaviors gradually, in line with our beliefs.

Here’s the irony: who you were is not who you are. Every day starts with a new challenge that shapes a part of you. The decisions on how to react, if we settle acting within our limitations or if we choose to educate ourselves and grow, the decision of being a better person or not, they all account for who we are, in the present moment.

You are shaping today and everyday who you are going to become and becoming never stops.

You Are Enough, Start Building on It

Photo by Gem Salcedo

Looking around us at what we perceive as the successful and the beautiful, it’s easy to think that success is further away from us than we think. The truth is that in-between ourselves and success is our commitment and discipline to make things happen.

Many industries are built on profiting from people’s insecurities or inability to think that they have what it takes. This includes reality shows, vlogs, the beauty industry and all the easy fixes/instant schemes that will make you rich or beautiful or both.

It is sometimes challenging to look in the mirror and accept that what we have to work with is enough. That we are more than capable to put in the effort and bridge the gap between where we are standing and where we want to be. Stop waiting for things to happen or finding reasons to not even try to put in the effort. Focus on yourself and start building. You’ve got this.

How to Build Up Joy

Photo by Kyle Ellefson

It’s not always easy to get excited about life, particularly when our wishes come second. Perhaps that’s how generations before us lived facing war and disease. Or maybe they got stronger in their quest to see another day.

Getting excited about life means taking space in this world with intention. Intending to leave our mark, not through having the world knowing our name, but by leaving a legacy of a life that’s vibrant and youthful, even when we’re tired and confused.

Building up joy starts with a giggle. A cliche, I know, but it seems like we can’t sit in anger or sadness or depression when laughing. Who would have thought that to build joy we can start with our body producing the manifestation of it. We’re still a mystery to many and we’re most definitely a mystery to ourselves.

Stressed and Confused? Only You Can Change That

Photo by Zahari Dimitrov

Does the influx of unwanted information start to take over your life? Are you trapped between worry, stress and uncertainty? Stop. Take a deep breath. Clear your thoughts. We are all faced with a choice.

As comfortable as the victim mindset makes us feel, it’s detrimental to our wellbeing. So then what can we do? If we’d see the wave coming we most likely won’t run towards it. Similarly, facing the avalanche of bad news and misinformation, what makes us think that being swamped by negativity will have the opposite effect: positivity, regeneration and growth?

To regain calm we need to anchor ourselves into a reality that we can work towards. We can envision health and prosperity and even if these ideas are being challenged at the moment, what projecting misery achieves is only making room for misery.

We may not be able to change the world around us, but we can change the world we build and we project. Let’s make the world shine with the beauty of our thoughts and the strength of our emotions.

Self-Discipline for MEssy People: Why Is It So Hard

Photo by Maarten van den Heuvel 

As much as we like to find excuses in how busy we are or how challenging our life is, personally I still sometimes find myself stuck in the loop of nonproductive behavior.

Keeping track of every move we make is tiring on its own, but people who have made considerable progress in their area of interest have done so by measuring progress. We celebrate birthdays and a new year not just for the opportunity to party, but because we can look back at how far we came.

Tracking progress weekly does add meaning to the one year milestones we’ve set. It helps us stay on track and if binge-watching Netflix for a week is a poor use of time, imagine what it means doing so for a full year. Time to get our house in order. What is the one thing you want to focus on? By setting a priority discipline will naturally follow.