Getting Our Expectations Met

Photo by Zoltan Tasi 

Why can’t we seem to be able to overcome our conditioning? It may be our laziness, tendency of judging other people or our attitude towards money. We come into this world untouched by the world of ideas and biases, but by the time we realize that we can think for ourselves many of us agree to what has been fed to us. What we hear at an early age is limited by our exposure to people. We will most likely be around family and people in the community, maybe some mainstream tv that feeds the narrative of the masses. If you’re looking around you and you see people placed in different bodies with similar identities – it’s not an illusion, it’s what happens when we stop growing.

Being poor and staying poor is a puzzle that not many of us can understand. But the discourse of consumption is so dominant that it leaves no room for thinking that we can be on the producer’s side. What we ask of ourselves is what we get and for that reason, we need to be truthful to our dreams and expectations of ourselves.

Setting our expectations high will allow us to reach there. If we can’t see the finish line with our mind’s eye, we won’t get there. Meeting our expectations of ourselves means asking enough of ourselves to push us forward and to believe possible. But if we were kept in a state of passive living, it may take a big leap of believing in ourselves that will allow us to be pleasantly surprised by our unexplored potential.

How Much Can We Handle?

Photo by Miguel Salgado

Self-doubt doesn’t show out of nowhere. Whenever we are given conditions or advice which imply that we are not good enough, strong enough or smart enough to handle situations is when the door is opened for doubt to settle:

  • ‘you can only go there if this person goes’
  • ‘liaise with a senior member of the team to work on this’
  • ‘are you sure you can manage so many projects?’

By being guarded by some sort of authority – parents, grownups, employers, professors – we give into a smaller version of ourselves. We were built for growth. I would even go as far as to say that we were built for glory. We don’t have to go to battle to have glory, what we need is constant growth that will empower us to create a greater impact in our lives, our communities and our society.

Many of us have settled into limiting mindsets before even realizing what we are doing to ourselves. But all this can be undone. Know that we can handle more than we were made to believe and that no one can take away our greatness. It’s up to us to acknowledge the damage that was done and resurrect our sense of self-confidence, self-love and our commitment to grow.