Making the right call is only one part of the challenge, following through with it, without hesitation, can take a lot of willpower. So how do you not go back on your word, even if you’ve only given your word to yourself? By making a point out of keeping your word. This will contribute to your self-esteem and once you’ve followed through you’ll be able to enjoy the process without having the little you trying to take control. You are brave and most importantly, you are powerful.
Our brain seeks to rationalize human behavior, forgetting that there are part of us that don’t make sense to our mind. Reactions or actions that don’t align with a script can be stigmatized. They make us feel good and in our right to point at others. And although it might always feel right, it’s never true. We are the masters of our own life. We don’t own our children, partners, friends and family. We only have what we build and are what we grow into being.
We all have experienced at least one moment in life when our decision was overridden and there was nothing we could do about it. If this happened at a young age, we learnt to put up less resistance going forward up to a point when even being proper adults doesn’t change our approach towards how we treat life, decisions and things coming our way. We sometimes forget that other people made decisions that weren’t in our best interest. It was comfortable for them not to have to deal with the prospects of success or failure. Not having to bother. But nothing happens unless we take responsibility and do what’s right for us.
All we can see are actions and their results. But the thought process can reveal that actions that don’t look impressive in the real world, are often times the better option. We not only have different ways of seeing the world, but due to our values and priorities some decisions can seem unfair to the naked eye. What do you do in those situation? Ultimately it comes down to: would you rather sleep well at night knowing that you followed through with the best option or do what other people expect you to do? Which of the options would contribute to your sense of self-worth and which one would make you feel a puppet?
We may think that being positive won’t do much for us or that we are chasing butterflies in doing so. It’s true that it’s easier easier to live with negative self-talk than building-up the positive inner voice, and although the positive self-talk will take time to prove its efficiency, this will help us in all areas of life.
Imagine a blue canvas that you want to cover in yellow acrylic. It takes multiple layers of paint to no longer see the blue, multiple strokes of the brush and time in between for the paint to settle. But seeing the picture, we still get a feel of what it used to be. So the process of change isn’t just a physical process, but how we frame the new reality.
Take a look at your own canvas. There might be strokes and colors of all sorts, but if you take a step back, as the light helps blend all colors in our field of vision, what do you see? Is it time to start painting?