Making the right call is only one part of the challenge, following through with it, without hesitation, can take a lot of willpower. So how do you not go back on your word, even if you’ve only given your word to yourself? By making a point out of keeping your word. This will contribute to your self-esteem and once you’ve followed through you’ll be able to enjoy the process without having the little you trying to take control. You are brave and most importantly, you are powerful.
It can be challenging to follow through with a decision particularly if the immediate pleasure is more powerful than the results that can be achieved down the line. We were all confronted at some point in life with a decision of either following our dreams or chasing the monthly paycheck. What does it take to give up the fear of being poor and chase the riches of being fulfilled and building up our dreams?
All we can see are actions and their results. But the thought process can reveal that actions that don’t look impressive in the real world, are often times the better option. We not only have different ways of seeing the world, but due to our values and priorities some decisions can seem unfair to the naked eye. What do you do in those situation? Ultimately it comes down to: would you rather sleep well at night knowing that you followed through with the best option or do what other people expect you to do? Which of the options would contribute to your sense of self-worth and which one would make you feel a puppet?
We don’t often have the opportunity to boil down our existence to three essential things that we need. Adversity offers such an opportunity. It’s a chance to revisit decisions made a while back, decisions that became part of our identity or worse, became our identity.
What matters in life? Is it family, money, love, recognition? The need to sacrifice ourselves for the greater good? Having a walk with a loved one? As life changes, so does what matters to everyone of us. Now for many people it’s important to feel safe and to be safe. What are you willing to sacrifice to make that happen?
You know that time when you dismissed someone because of a lack of time or patience? It takes the same amount of time to be kind to someone as it does to be rude. Not to mention the roller-coaster of emotions and thoughts that follow each action.
Kindness brings peace while rudeness deepens the void within. There is a black whole were negative emotions live and the more we feed it the bigger it gets. Do we want to give and receive kindness or dwell in self-induced emotions.
Every action has a consequence even if we don’t see it immediately. Even if we think that the employee or child that we chose to treat poorly has no power over us, the higher balance does not know status or superiority mindsets. We are all equal in essence and the diversity of our abilities facilitates progress. Why would we waste any time on being anything but kind?
Are you lingering over the thought of ‘what if’ and ‘what could it be’? Are you having the occasional feeling of guilt regarding decisions that you already made while you are going forward with your decision regardless? Stop.
Our path in life is not pre-designed. Is just as contoured as our thoughts. There are two things that will take us where we want to go:
- Know where you’re going
- Stick to the plan
There are times when two paths can lead to the same destination. Each road we take is a new experience – different landscape, different people that we’ll bump into, different constructs. Would we go down a road half way through and then drive around to take the other street because we’re very curious of what’s the other option like? Unlikely. But if you’re feeling is so strong that give you the power of going through with the change, do it. Otherwise pack it and dispose of it together with all the other possibilities of how your life could have been.
And remember, there is no right decision, there is just the obvious decision given the time and circumstances you live in.