You have that little voice in your head that tells you rubbish. I have it also. How do you out-think it? You just focus on what you want to achieve to a point where what you are doing matters more than how you are doing. What you are doing will produce results, energy, relationships. It is the action and not the fear of it. So next time you hear that little voice inside of your head just ignore it. It’s not even worth your time. Don’t let your insecurities come in your way to success.
Language is a superpower. We use it as an expression of our thoughts and feelings and it brings together a representation of who we are. But there are times when what we say doesn’t seem to matter to the other person, although it matters to us and compromising on one’s identity can leave a dent in relationships. Language requires someone to decode it and to understand it, or better yet, someone willing to do all this.
When feedback comes from a place of doubt or hatred, words become parasites. They clutter our judgement and manifest our undignified-self. Stress can cause negative feedback take over pure appreciation. If that’s the case, you’re not doing anyone a favor. Instead, picking one top area of improvement with actionable advice actually works. Aim to improve one thing at a time and you will see growth, personal pride and satisfaction.
We all know that while we’re asleep someone in a home garage is working 10x faster to progress on the same idea as you. We also know that an idea is worth nothing. How do we balance the sense of urgency with looking after ourselves?
My experience so far was at the two ends of the spectrum – either being fully committed to my personal projects or acting as if I’m 10 during my summer holiday – which means not getting anything done. I was taught recently about the impact of small victories. We need to remind ourselves that it’s not just alright to get tiny bits done, but that these are small successes worth celebrating. Celebrating the process rather than that one moment when we put a product on the market or we launch our idea is providing fuel to work continuously and to grow continuously. So it’s fine fine to sleep, as long as you remember where you left things first thing in the morning.
It’s not always easy to get excited about life, particularly when our wishes come second. Perhaps that’s how generations before us lived facing war and disease. Or maybe they got stronger in their quest to see another day.
Getting excited about life means taking space in this world with intention. Intending to leave our mark, not through having the world knowing our name, but by leaving a legacy of a life that’s vibrant and youthful, even when we’re tired and confused.
Building up joy starts with a giggle. A cliche, I know, but it seems like we can’t sit in anger or sadness or depression when laughing. Who would have thought that to build joy we can start with our body producing the manifestation of it. We’re still a mystery to many and we’re most definitely a mystery to ourselves.
Are you asking yourself questions that you never really had a chance to? Where am I headed, to what purpose, how am I getting there? Am I travelling a road that I picked?
By the time we grow mature enough to make a choice we often times allow others to make decisions for us. Are we going to study different degrees, get a steady job, follow paths that other people have traveled and have failed miserably.
They are the people thinking that just because their finances didn’t work out after 40+ years in a job, things will magically be different for their grown children. The people that then recognize the frustrations and limitations of 9-5 and shrug their shoulders. And when our life falls apart we can always look at our children and think ‘They have their whole life ahead of them’.
People that share our existential universe are not there by chance. They are stepping stones in our journey that fill our life with laughter, worry and excitement. They’re the people who model our existence. For this reason, we need both limited and unlimited people around us.
There is purpose in each and every one of us, but not all of us choose it. Allowing life to give us purpose also empowers the people around us to navigate through life. But regardless of the type of living – mindless or mindful – that we pick for ourselves, people come our way to teach us about life.
Whether we choose to resonate with the people limited by their beliefs or we take them as a departure point in our journey, it’s up to us. Everyone we come in contact with teaches us a lesson, we just need to listen and honor their reality.
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