Our brain loves holiday mood and it loves a good challenge. In our attempts to protect us from life, our parents might be removing any sources of stress from our life at a young age. And there, in the warmth of our family home, we feel safe, we feel confident and we feel loved. These feelings are not eternal, just as we can’t recreate those ‘perfect’ environment ever again. Adulthood comes with a wake-up call: it’s hard to be confident. But this statement doesn’t help us, doesn’t reveal how we can overcome the challenge. Confidence is brought by doing something uncomfortable every single day. And once you go back into holiday mode, just as those love handles reappear, self-confidence vanishes. Look at the level of confidence today to understand how much effort you’ve put in today in overcoming your boundaries.
We often think that there’s only that much that we can do. Only that many practice rounds, that much work, that much time and effort. Until someone comes and surpasses our expectations. It takes one person to break a world record and others will follow. It’s the knowing that makes it possible. Out of all the things you think you know, which one would you like to shift? And what’s holding you back?
There are times when we are fearful to even start a process. This can be because we are setting unrealistic expectations. We mistake perfection with a perfectly newborn baby, forgetting the effort and care that the mother has put in not just during the nine months of pregnancy, but in the time before also.
Doing constant exercise, changing our eating and sleeping habits, introducing reading, journaling, meditation, affirmations and gratitude in our routine will change our life in tiny chunks, so much so that over a 12 months period we will be able to recognise massive improvement.
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.– Jim Rohn
It’s okay to strive for perfection as long as we understand that it is our effort that will get us as close to the highest expression of ourselves as possible.
Success is attainable through deliberate effort. This means not wishing for it, but planning for it. It all starts with what we have to offer and that doesn’t really mean a degree or a letter of recommendation. It simply refers to what skills we have that can be of use to others.
Preparing for success is a mixture of discipline, training and having a clear focus. Superior characteristics are not inborn, but acquired throughout life. Building ourselves up for success comes with superpowers, such as saying no to the easy and yes to delaying gratification.
The best to come is the best of us that has ever existed. We sometimes look around us and see people who haven’t moved an inch from where they were a year ago – not in their beliefs, not in their personal interests. That is what instant gratification looks like in the long-term. Where do you want to go and what can you do every single day that will help you progress?