Love and labeling don’t go hand in hand. As tempted as we may be to label feelings, reactions, people or things happening into our life, we have the power to set them free from patterns that harm us. We have the power to free ourselves from emotions that don’t serve us. Criticism of others or ourselves can only be useful when it brings actionable thoughts. On your walks or talks today, keep an open mind about whatever might come your way. Nothing can touch you unless you let it.
Does the influx of unwanted information start to take over your life? Are you trapped between worry, stress and uncertainty? Stop. Take a deep breath. Clear your thoughts. We are all faced with a choice.
As comfortable as the victim mindset makes us feel, it’s detrimental to our wellbeing. So then what can we do? If we’d see the wave coming we most likely won’t run towards it. Similarly, facing the avalanche of bad news and misinformation, what makes us think that being swamped by negativity will have the opposite effect: positivity, regeneration and growth?
To regain calm we need to anchor ourselves into a reality that we can work towards. We can envision health and prosperity and even if these ideas are being challenged at the moment, what projecting misery achieves is only making room for misery.
We may not be able to change the world around us, but we can change the world we build and we project. Let’s make the world shine with the beauty of our thoughts and the strength of our emotions.
We raise our voice, stamp our foot and clench our fist – all signs of power that we rob our opponent from. How do we manage a conversation without feeding into this destructive pattern?
- We quietly listen, without interrupting our counterpart.
- We ask ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions – what do you think we should do next? How would you act if you were me?
- We treat the other person the way we would like them to treat us: with calm, respect and consideration
This is not as easy as 1, 2, 3 but I know that whenever I don’t give into the other person’s rage fit I feel better about myself. I might still not feel 100% ponies on the field tea party but I feel better than the times when I try to match anger with anger.
As a long term strategy, simply avoiding people who put all their emotions into an anger pot works better than managing constant friction. Choose your daily interactions carefully, every person we meet shapes our behavior and, to a certain degree, our identity.
Working from home, being housebound due to health conditions or self-isolation to meet deadlines can cause strain on our emotional wellbeing. Our lives get enriched through human interaction and the lack of it might go unnoticed only for that long.
One of the main issues with not changing the environment we are in is that we don’t realize how fast time passes. Losing track of time doing things that don’t benefit us is worse if we have no one around to look for advice or get support from.
Here are some tips to help you make the most out of the time that you need to spend on your on:
- set the top two priorities for the day
- create a plan of how to meet them
- reward yourself with human interaction – plan a call or text/email someone
- plan a short exercise routine
- create a ‘feeling low kit’ with all the essentials and set a timer on how long you’re allowing yourself to feel low for
Even when we choose loneliness, it can be daunting. Reach out to people, check in on them and open up as much as you feel comfortable. The conversation around mental health has only just started and social isolation goes beyond the statistics.