Getting Out of Though Situations

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Thinking that we are stuck is one of the greatest illusions in life. With every step we take or decision to remain passive, time keeps on moving forward. We can choose if we move or stand still, but standing still will doesn’t change anything and it certainly won’t stop the time. Feeling stuck comes from a place of fear. It takes courage to change our circumstances, to stop blaming anyone or anything for what is happening to us and to take full responsibility instead.

Empowering language shifts the focus from the issue to an actionable solution. And if we are able to look forward, we then can take one more step to get ourselves out of any situation. What’s the next step to get you closer to where we want to be in life?

Perfection Isn’t Real, Consistent Effort Is

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There are times when we are fearful to even start a process. This can be because we are setting unrealistic expectations. We mistake perfection with a perfectly newborn baby, forgetting the effort and care that the mother has put in not just during the nine months of pregnancy, but in the time before also.

Doing constant exercise, changing our eating and sleeping habits, introducing reading, journaling, meditation, affirmations and gratitude in our routine will change our life in tiny chunks, so much so that over a 12 months period we will be able to recognise massive improvement.

We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.

– Jim Rohn

It’s okay to strive for perfection as long as we understand that it is our effort that will get us as close to the highest expression of ourselves as possible.

Monkey Mind Essentials: Mind Your Language!

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What do you see when you are looking at your reflection in the mirror? Do you see someone who will power through, step over self-enforced limitations or someone who is scared and worried? All people, regardless of their ability to push themselves forward, had points in their life of feeling insecure and defeated. What matters is what we make out of that situation.

That tingle in your hands and dryness of throat signals that something exceptional is about to happen. Something we have never experienced before. Unless there is a real threat to life, realistically our brain and body is playing up the fear of the unknown. There are different strategies to manage anxiety and the anticipation of uncertainty and I am a huge believer of positive self-talk. This on itself can be uncomfortable, but power does come from within.

Love and kindness affirmations practiced in our head or said out loud in the shower or in front of a mirror help flip the narrative of negative self-talk. Positive self-talk does not replace taking action. Positive self-talk is a device that increases our confidence and with that, our chances of moving forward.

Is Your Mind in the Right Place?

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Setting up goals allows us to measure progress and gives us a direction. But taking I want to over I need to won’t cut it. Our desire needs to be strong enough to make us get out of bed every morning, with a smile on our face, knowing that we’re going to make progress. Even in the cold, foggy mornings. Even when we can come up with every excuse to not make progress.

Stop. Is checking social media really that important? Online shopping, playing video games, watching Netflix. There are an infinite amount of distractions and excuses, but only you can create your own environment to succeed. Only you can pause, take a step back, and understand that what’s immediately in front of you does not serve you. Clear your field of vision. See where you’re going and make sure you get there. If you don’t do it, no one else will.

Asking the Right Questions

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The way we express ourselves does impact our relationships but most importantly it impacts our mood and attitude towards problems and failure. In challenging times do you tend to blame or find a way to turn the situation in your favor? If something is outside of your control do you simply get frustrated or do you have the ability to detach and take control over your reality?

Having a bouncy mind really means being able to adjust to whatever comes your way and for that to happen you need to start with questions that put you in a position of power. If you ask ‘Why am I always so clumsy’ rather than ‘How can I improve’ you are embarking on two different paths. One is giving into the loop of habit, while the second lifts you above the issue and allows you to give yourself constructive feedback.

Asking the right question sets us up for success. If the question is ‘How can I get a raise’ rather than ‘How can I build myself up for success’, we will notice the first approach has limitations while the second one not only focuses on the process rather than the event, but it removes the assumption that success equals a raise. What is the one question that might change your life for the best? I’d be interested to know in the comments section below.

Are You Working for Your Dreams or for Other People’s Dreams?

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Every now and then the time comes to face the way things fall into place in our lives. This can be caused by the way we are treated or by seeing things that we wish we can fix and we feel like we don’t have the power to do it. When we look around us and the way we live our life is not a reflection of our aspirations or of the road that will take us there, it’s time to reassess where we’re standing and who we truly serve.

Serving a purpose is different from being a tool in someone’s toolkit. Due to market changes and our own perceived needs, we often jump at the first chance we get. Saying no to opportunity is part of the process of discovering and/or creating opportunities that allow us to grow towards fulfilling our true potential.

Building ourselves up towards fulfilling our dreams is more likely to help us live a life of purpose and a life of no regrets. Stand up for yourself. Serve a purpose you chose.