Love and labeling don’t go hand in hand. As tempted as we may be to label feelings, reactions, people or things happening into our life, we have the power to set them free from patterns that harm us. We have the power to free ourselves from emotions that don’t serve us. Criticism of others or ourselves can only be useful when it brings actionable thoughts. On your walks or talks today, keep an open mind about whatever might come your way. Nothing can touch you unless you let it.
Thinking that we are stuck is one of the greatest illusions in life. With every step we take or decision to remain passive, time keeps on moving forward. We can choose if we move or stand still, but standing still will doesn’t change anything and it certainly won’t stop the time. Feeling stuck comes from a place of fear. It takes courage to change our circumstances, to stop blaming anyone or anything for what is happening to us and to take full responsibility instead.
Empowering language shifts the focus from the issue to an actionable solution. And if we are able to look forward, we then can take one more step to get ourselves out of any situation. What’s the next step to get you closer to where we want to be in life?
There are times when we are fearful to even start a process. This can be because we are setting unrealistic expectations. We mistake perfection with a perfectly newborn baby, forgetting the effort and care that the mother has put in not just during the nine months of pregnancy, but in the time before also.
Doing constant exercise, changing our eating and sleeping habits, introducing reading, journaling, meditation, affirmations and gratitude in our routine will change our life in tiny chunks, so much so that over a 12 months period we will be able to recognise massive improvement.
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.– Jim Rohn
It’s okay to strive for perfection as long as we understand that it is our effort that will get us as close to the highest expression of ourselves as possible.
What do you see when you are looking at your reflection in the mirror? Do you see someone who will power through, step over self-enforced limitations or someone who is scared and worried? All people, regardless of their ability to push themselves forward, had points in their life of feeling insecure and defeated. What matters is what we make out of that situation.
That tingle in your hands and dryness of throat signals that something exceptional is about to happen. Something we have never experienced before. Unless there is a real threat to life, realistically our brain and body is playing up the fear of the unknown. There are different strategies to manage anxiety and the anticipation of uncertainty and I am a huge believer of positive self-talk. This on itself can be uncomfortable, but power does come from within.
Love and kindness affirmations practiced in our head or said out loud in the shower or in front of a mirror help flip the narrative of negative self-talk. Positive self-talk does not replace taking action. Positive self-talk is a device that increases our confidence and with that, our chances of moving forward.
Setting up goals allows us to measure progress and gives us a direction. But taking I want to over I need to won’t cut it. Our desire needs to be strong enough to make us get out of bed every morning, with a smile on our face, knowing that we’re going to make progress. Even in the cold, foggy mornings. Even when we can come up with every excuse to not make progress.
Stop. Is checking social media really that important? Online shopping, playing video games, watching Netflix. There are an infinite amount of distractions and excuses, but only you can create your own environment to succeed. Only you can pause, take a step back, and understand that what’s immediately in front of you does not serve you. Clear your field of vision. See where you’re going and make sure you get there. If you don’t do it, no one else will.
Are you looking around you for a strong support? Inspiration. Motivation. Discipline. A plan? Regardless of who you’re meeting and what you are told, you are the one filtering the information. When we choose to think that someone gives us positive feedback because they’re being nice, we neutralize a powerful source that can fuel our self-confidence and help us sky-rocket through doubts, all the way into action.
There is zero value in putting ourselves down, and yet it happens. Our primitive mind wishes to keep us safe when it perceives danger that is not real – public speaking, starting a conversation, asking someone out etc. Tuning into the messages of growth over the messages that are belittling is a personal choice. As someone once said, growth begins at the edge of our comfort zone. We have the power to surpass our limits and that begins with what we think and how we convey it.