What You’re Telling Yourself Will Always Hit Home

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Are you looking around you for a strong support? Inspiration. Motivation. Discipline. A plan? Regardless of who you’re meeting and what you are told, you are the one filtering the information. When we choose to think that someone gives us positive feedback because they’re being nice, we neutralize a powerful source that can fuel our self-confidence and help us sky-rocket through doubts, all the way into action.

There is zero value in putting ourselves down, and yet it happens. Our primitive mind wishes to keep us safe when it perceives danger that is not real – public speaking, starting a conversation, asking someone out etc. Tuning into the messages of growth over the messages that are belittling is a personal choice. As someone once said, growth begins at the edge of our comfort zone. We have the power to surpass our limits and that begins with what we think and how we convey it.

Asking the Right Questions

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The way we express ourselves does impact our relationships but most importantly it impacts our mood and attitude towards problems and failure. In challenging times do you tend to blame or find a way to turn the situation in your favor? If something is outside of your control do you simply get frustrated or do you have the ability to detach and take control over your reality?

Having a bouncy mind really means being able to adjust to whatever comes your way and for that to happen you need to start with questions that put you in a position of power. If you ask ‘Why am I always so clumsy’ rather than ‘How can I improve’ you are embarking on two different paths. One is giving into the loop of habit, while the second lifts you above the issue and allows you to give yourself constructive feedback.

Asking the right question sets us up for success. If the question is ‘How can I get a raise’ rather than ‘How can I build myself up for success’, we will notice the first approach has limitations while the second one not only focuses on the process rather than the event, but it removes the assumption that success equals a raise. What is the one question that might change your life for the best? I’d be interested to know in the comments section below.

Are You Working for Your Dreams or for Other People’s Dreams?

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Every now and then the time comes to face the way things fall into place in our lives. This can be caused by the way we are treated or by seeing things that we wish we can fix and we feel like we don’t have the power to do it. When we look around us and the way we live our life is not a reflection of our aspirations or of the road that will take us there, it’s time to reassess where we’re standing and who we truly serve.

Serving a purpose is different from being a tool in someone’s toolkit. Due to market changes and our own perceived needs, we often jump at the first chance we get. Saying no to opportunity is part of the process of discovering and/or creating opportunities that allow us to grow towards fulfilling our true potential.

Building ourselves up towards fulfilling our dreams is more likely to help us live a life of purpose and a life of no regrets. Stand up for yourself. Serve a purpose you chose.

You Are Enough, Start Building on It

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Looking around us at what we perceive as the successful and the beautiful, it’s easy to think that success is further away from us than we think. The truth is that in-between ourselves and success is our commitment and discipline to make things happen.

Many industries are built on profiting from people’s insecurities or inability to think that they have what it takes. This includes reality shows, vlogs, the beauty industry and all the easy fixes/instant schemes that will make you rich or beautiful or both.

It is sometimes challenging to look in the mirror and accept that what we have to work with is enough. That we are more than capable to put in the effort and bridge the gap between where we are standing and where we want to be. Stop waiting for things to happen or finding reasons to not even try to put in the effort. Focus on yourself and start building. You’ve got this.

Does Fear Really Keep Us Safe?

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We rely on our instincts without processing most of the times that we are doing so. This may be when crossing the street, choosing to avoid people or phone someone on our way home because we are feeling unsafe. There are occasions when we are getting mixed signals and despite everything being in place, anxiety creeps in and takes over.

In the animal kingdom, when predators smell fear they are more enticed to chase up their pray. What makes us think that humans are not the same? Showing confidence in our bodies not only gives us a sense of security, but it gives us power over people who are looking to take advantage of the vulnerable.

Fear works to a certain degree, when the reactions it generates do work in our favor, in the moment. But when we are projecting over the future and we choose fear over the light we can build ourselves towards, we are letting ourselves down. It may sometimes depend on a sharper walk, therapy sessions, martial arts or meditation. Whatever it is, taking action means taking control.

The I’m Not Good Enough Holdback

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We worry about what people might think of us, what if we fail, what if we end up in a loss after making this decision? What if I’m not good enough? I know I worry about these things constantly and the fun bit is that this prevents be from even making a start.

Fear is paralyzing. It makes us think that we are good where we stand at the moment, even if we are tragically unhappy. We tell ourselves that this is what life looks life because we see so many examples of people around us walking dead through life.

The choice to take action is a choice that needs to be taken every single day. Is the choice of making a start. What people think is not relevant. Will you look back on your life 20 years from now thinking:

‘I’m proud of myself because I made people think that I am happy and successful. No one ever doubted it’

Or is it more likely to look back on your life with regret? Let that put things in perspective for you when the I’m not good enough thoughts creep in. You’re good enough and you can only improve from here onwards.