Radical Acceptance

Photo by Ilja Tulit

You only have control over your own actions, so why waste time and energy over things that can only impact them of you allow them to? Radically accept everyone around you. Accept their decisions, their stories, their views. Accepting is more helpful than fighting forces and attracting consequences. Acceptance allows you to go through life by focusing on what you can do better, and it all starts with accepting who you are now.

Trust the Big You over Little You

Thanks to Pascal Mauerhofer

You have that little voice in your head that tells you rubbish. I have it also. How do you out-think it? You just focus on what you want to achieve to a point where what you are doing matters more than how you are doing. What you are doing will produce results, energy, relationships. It is the action and not the fear of it. So next time you hear that little voice inside of your head just ignore it. It’s not even worth your time. Don’t let your insecurities come in your way to success.

Forcing Yourself to Listen

Photo by Ed Leszczynskl

The default mode of our brains to generate thoughts that seem more interesting than the present moment robs us from the present moment. This can happen due to lack of sleep or energy, or just out of habit. Everything has a fix, while the first two can be addressed through lifestyle choices (exercising, diet, sleep), habit creation requires more effort.

Benefits of listening

  • you’ll feel knowledgeable, you’ll have an insight into another person’s thought process that otherwise is challenging to grasp
  • helps connecting and building relationships
  • it reveals assumptions and validates perceptions
  • it challenges our mind into thinking differently

The reality is as diverse as the number of minds and heart populating it. Listening to languages we understanding and beyond that will give us more and more information about the world. Listening is much more valuable than talking. Listening allows strategies to form, while talking gifts information to others.

Self-CONFIDENCE and Being Active

Photo by Casey Horner

Are confident people busier than other people or is it the other way around?

Engaging in a high number of activities, social interaction and splitting our interest over different subjects brings together confidence in undertaking new challenges and overall self-belief.

Our brain no longer knows instinctively what’s best for us. The illusion of relaxing through passive behavior can take its toll on our body and on our mind. Passive behavior impacts our overall performance and ability to persist and succeed.

Have you ever noticed how much more energy you draw out of being active? Don’t postpone on that language class or knitting workshop. As long as you enjoy it, it is relaxing and it nurtures your self-confidence at the same time.

How Gossiping Does Everyone a Disservice

Gossiping is a paradoxical form of communication. It often involves a secret or a detail that is known to a limited amount of people that is further shared with people from the inner circle. One inner circle to another, the information becomes public knowledge.

How does gossiping sabotage our existence?

  1. Energy loss. We put energy into an idea over which we have no control and which brings no value to our life. This brings a feeling of emptiness that more gossiping cannot fill.
  2. Time loss. Instead of bonding with people over things that can help us grow, we use the time to discuss other people.
  3. The balance of the universe always finds a way. Words are a powerful tool of manifestation, used on ourselves or others. Gossiping tends to add emotions from the negative spectrum – envy, hatred, pity. Every thought put in the universe reflects back on us.

Here’s a great exercise: when thinking of sharing ideas or experiences of other people that are not yours to share, stop yourself in the tracks. Set yourself free from this habit, one gossipy thought at a time.

All Year Round Kindness Begins Now

Being kind has great benefits in all areas of life. Before we dive in, is important to look at the source of unkindness. It can be that we don’t like a person or the way we feel around them, the fact that we had a long day or simply that we don’t have the time to be kind. But being kind is not only up to us, it is about us.

Positive Self-Talk

Building a positive relationship with ourselves and training our inner voice to lift us up reflects in our relationships with others. We tend to bring people up with us if we’re feeling good about ourselves. What’s inside us always gets out. It can be in a burst of negativity or through discreet passive aggressive remarks.

Where to Start?

Catch yourself doing in the moment when you’re being unkind to yourself and change the inner conversation.

Here are some good examples of positive self-talk:

‘I’ll get it right next time’

‘I’ve got this’

I can make it happen’

‘I’m one step closer to success’

How to Be Kind to People

Treat everyone with equal kindness – your mom, your child, your nemesis, your ex.

How? Give voice to the thoughts you’ve already practiced:

‘I’ll get it right next time’

‘I’ve got this’

I can make it happen’

‘I’m one step closer to success’

Most importantly, don’t allow yourself to like or not to like someone. All that really does is differentiating between people based on criteria that I know I never really thought about. Preserve your energy for doing good and make positive thinking a full-time commitment.