Day 3 – Take 2 – Shift Your Focus

Just like money kept under the mattress, energy preserved for ‘what if’ drops in strength and meaning. Human generated energy is such a volatile concept that it almost escapes our understanding.

Let’s look at what we know. If we put our head on the pillow at night and our mind is running us over, our body is fidgety and we’re starting to feel frustrated, we probably did not do a very good job at moving our energy into the right direction throughout the day and we are left with resources that drain us, just like a bump in the mattress, instead of making us feel better. Feeling depleted, on the other hand, means that you’ve spent the energy you had. We can perceive the feeling as being a sign that we have moved things forward, or we can mistake it as a lack.

Today I’ve learnt that emptiness gives room to possibility.

Photo by Dave Hoefler on Unsplash

Day 6: Living from a Higher Place

Have you ever walked about in the dark and ran into things? The same thing happens when we are upset and we interact with other people. Being upset or hurt clouds our perspective and makes our words and actions land the same way – causing upset.

A higher place means, a place where you feel calm. You don’t need to be a cheerful bunny to allow yourself to interact with others, but a state of calm will allow you to be more aware to different triggers that might bring you down.

Radical Acceptance

Photo by Ilja Tulit

You only have control over your own actions, so why waste time and energy over things that can only impact them of you allow them to? Radically accept everyone around you. Accept their decisions, their stories, their views. Accepting is more helpful than fighting forces and attracting consequences. Acceptance allows you to go through life by focusing on what you can do better, and it all starts with accepting who you are now.

Trust the Big You over Little You

Thanks to Pascal Mauerhofer

You have that little voice in your head that tells you rubbish. I have it also. How do you out-think it? You just focus on what you want to achieve to a point where what you are doing matters more than how you are doing. What you are doing will produce results, energy, relationships. It is the action and not the fear of it. So next time you hear that little voice inside of your head just ignore it. It’s not even worth your time. Don’t let your insecurities come in your way to success.

Forcing Yourself to Listen

Photo by Ed Leszczynskl

The default mode of our brains to generate thoughts that seem more interesting than the present moment robs us from the present moment. This can happen due to lack of sleep or energy, or just out of habit. Everything has a fix, while the first two can be addressed through lifestyle choices (exercising, diet, sleep), habit creation requires more effort.

Benefits of listening

  • you’ll feel knowledgeable, you’ll have an insight into another person’s thought process that otherwise is challenging to grasp
  • helps connecting and building relationships
  • it reveals assumptions and validates perceptions
  • it challenges our mind into thinking differently

The reality is as diverse as the number of minds and heart populating it. Listening to languages we understanding and beyond that will give us more and more information about the world. Listening is much more valuable than talking. Listening allows strategies to form, while talking gifts information to others.

Self-CONFIDENCE and Being Active

Photo by Casey Horner

Are confident people busier than other people or is it the other way around?

Engaging in a high number of activities, social interaction and splitting our interest over different subjects brings together confidence in undertaking new challenges and overall self-belief.

Our brain no longer knows instinctively what’s best for us. The illusion of relaxing through passive behavior can take its toll on our body and on our mind. Passive behavior impacts our overall performance and ability to persist and succeed.

Have you ever noticed how much more energy you draw out of being active? Don’t postpone on that language class or knitting workshop. As long as you enjoy it, it is relaxing and it nurtures your self-confidence at the same time.