Listening Even when You Have Something to Say

Photo by Daniele Levis Pelusi

Listening is an active act of engaging with someone, of connecting with them. More than speaking, it can bond people in a profound way. Two people speaking will meet, speak and part ways without having shared anything with each other. Two people listening form a spiritual connection that the violence of the spoken word can break. We hear people saying ‘You should be listening more’ on an accusatory tone. But it takes words to accuse and silence to understand.

Entitlement as a Self-Sabotage Technique

Photo by Stephen Blenman

Expecting things to come our way without putting in the work is entitlement. Although it can work in our favor for a little while or as long as we don’t leave our nest, this attitude gives us the impression of growth. It makes us fantasize in thinking that we are of superior race.

Entitlement goes hand in hand with hard work and with discipline. Doing what’s easy doesn’t require discipline, pushing ourselves to evolve does. How do we fix ourselves?

  1. Learn humbleness, not humility. Be humble and modest, bow in front of people who have endurance, who went through hardship, who are different. Learn empathy. Learn that your soul’s journey is in tandem with millions of other energies. Be humble.
  2. Set your goal high and work towards it. Don’t settle for whatever comes your way or what you can get at a snap. To play a big part you have to match the requirements. Train for it, study, learn, evolve.

What do you think the third ‘fixing ourselves’ tip should be?