We are in charge of our lives and in control – to a certain degree – of how people perceive us. From makeup to body language, we can choose how we come across. There are also moments when we don’t feel what we display and that’s when what we hear from the people we trust makes a great difference. Do they remind us of what we strive to be, or do they belittle us and make us feel like screw-ups? It’s as simple as that when choosing our circle of friends.
In times of austerity we cannot postpone change and choosing what’s right. What’s easy is no longer an option and giving into anger and despair is guaranteed failure.
So what can we do when we can’t change the decisions that led us here?
- Take a look at your environment. Tidy up the space for a clear mind.
- What is your ‘must’ through this challenging period? Financially, socially (the need to connect with people) and personally (self-growth).
- Where do you want to go?
Envisioning a bright future when the world seems to be on verge of collapsing might not be the most sensitive thing to do, but it certainly is the healthiest. We attract what we say and what we think and despite all the chaos, there is still room for our individual narrative.
In our urban lives we expect nature to be when and where it suits us: water in the lake, greenery in the park and plants in pots. To protect out attitude of sealing the earth in layers of concrete we’ve stripped down the ground from positives and turned it into mud.
The concrete attitude reflects our need of being in control and having security. But just as our relationship with Mother Earth got damaged, this attitude is equally detrimental in how we connect with others. It shows our inability of going through mud and washing up afterwards, or taking a jump over a puddle. Simply put, expecting things to go according to plan impacts our resilience.
If you need concrete in your life, leave room for the flowers and wild plants to emerge from the ground. A small crack can bring just enough room for growth.
We pride ourselves with our ability to think, but when it comes to pressure and perceived threats we are not always making conscious decisions. From ‘I can’t find my keys before going to work’ to fear of public speaking, deadlines or our views being challenged – everything takes a certain level of awareness. Panic leaves little room to clear thinking.
Long-term practices such as meditation or floatation tanks deal with the backlog of accumulated stress, but what can we do in the moment? It’s as easy as breathing, but taking deep breaths isn’t a natural reaction when our heart is racing. This is why it’s good to have prompts either around the place (environmental design) or a person that can keep you accountable and guide you.
It takes strength to acknowledge the weakness of when our prefrontal cortex takes over. Once we accept the reality of the situation, we can move through regulating our body, telling it to obey us and then plan according to what the reality is, rather than what it looks like.