Being selective with the people we let into our life it’s the first gift you can give to yourself. People making you feel small or needy will never evolve, and for that reason they will never allow you to grow. We are more mindful about the influences that children are exposed to than we are about our own circle of influence, but in reality we are just as vulnerable. Once we trust someone, we unfortunately can easily allow them to override our views.
The future might seem far away, but tomorrow is almost here and it will turn into the now. Where will you be standing today? One step closer to fulfillment or just on step further through time, hoping that life won’t happen to you? Or that time will be forgiving. It never is.
Does it take an instant to create change? Yes. That’s what the whole world will see. The former factory worker turned restaurant owner. The former waiter or waitress, now famous comedian. The single parent living off benefits, now successful entrepreneur. Will anyone know how much struggle, effort, discouragement and determination went into that? Chances are, not that many people.
The inner circle might see unanswered calls and missed celebrations. Skills that came naturally. Genetics that played a huge role or other types of ‘special’. Change is the definition of life and it can happen upwards or downwards. If you stop trying to maintain a flat curve, you’re missing out on the real progress you could be making. Having focus is just an excuse to learn and grow, but labels are fixed, they do not reflect the road in-between, only the end goal. So please, do, change. The world will have to bear with us.
I heard somewhere that it’s okay to not know, what matters is to know where you can find the information.
When it comes to our health, not knowing is still okay, but counting on other people to know when needed and allowing ourselves to be let down by systems and processes is not okay. Taking control of what we don’t know and looking at filling in the gaps of knowledge to serve ourselves and others is what really drives progress.
Seeing progress as a worldwide process without thinking that we can be a driving force minimizes our potential. People with degrees who are dropping in pre-defined roles and life templates are not failing themselves and others deliberately. The world seems to have settled into a long blink and when opening the eyes decades letter we realize that things have changed, that we have changes, but we allowed hierarchy to discipline us over natural progress.
Not knowing is okay and embracing the knowledge gap to drive progress is more than okay, is a necessity.
I was recently told that if I want to write a book I should aim to write six or more and the reason being that through different projects we get closer to perfection. When we think of one thing to do – one dissertation, one poem, one painting – we fantasize over a flawless masterpiece.
Rejecting failure leaves no room for progress. If we don’t believe that we have so much more to offer to the world than just one song or business idea, we limit our progress. So if we are to dream big, we should multiply the dream at least by five. And rather than looking at the end goal and measuring the overwhelming distance with our eyes, it’s easier to look for our next few steps into the right direction.
What is the one thing that makes you sit in fear when thinking of even making a start on it? And what are the first small steps you need to take to start moving into the right direction?