Day 1 – Take 2 – The Work Continues

Admitting failure can be challenging. My 4AM challenge was short-lived. Why? Mainly because I had willpower (that only lasts this much) but not so much of a system or a vision of how I would approach things. Today I’m back to Day 1 and its’ been a great learning experience. I took time for myself. Time to enjoy the day, to meditate, read, work and slow down.

The 4AM challenge means more to me than a ridiculously early wake-up time. It’s the type of thing that I would look up to people for being able to pull it off and I want to have that feeling of pride when I look at my reflection in the mirror. Sure, it’s challenging, but it’s about building momentum and adding a feeling of urgency to things.

So, my friend, what is one thing that you want to achieve and maybe you haven’t yet even tried it or gave up on it? Can you start by envisioning yourself as being the person who can achieve your greatest dream?

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Day 2: Start Over?

What happens if you fail as I did today? I think there are two main options, we either start over or we push forward. I can speak from experience and say that starting over never did anything for me. Starting over implies that the experience of failure is dismissed, that succeeding at something the next day has nothing to do with the challenge that we faced. That’s not really accurate. What I will do different tomorrow might have never happened if it wasn’t for today.

First, I’ll give myself a tap on the back just for pushing forward. It wasn’t 4 AM sharp for me today, but I now know that I can’t just count on my enthusiasm to get me out of bed and stay active. The second step is planning on eliminating the risks of napping and drooling on the sofa. What’s my plan to get back on track? I’ll schedule in a work-out for 4.10. This means that I can spend 20 minutes on waking up my body and getting my mind used to how we are going to do things moving forward. It’s time to get back control over my life.

Getting Started Is 80% of Getting the Work Done

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Are you still thinking of what you have to do? Fantasizing? Wishing that you will wake up one day and find not only that the work is done, but that you did it without any effort and you are able to take pride in it? This is what a dream assassin looks like. Without action dreams fade away into the memory land, but not before impacting our self-esteem and joy of living.

If you spend most of your time ‘planning’ and ‘researching’ without getting your hands dirty, know that these are all excuses. Roll up your sleeves, follow leads, fail, get back on track. Succeed. You’re 20% left to succeed.

The Reality of Sharing Ideas with the Inner Circle

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If you’re passed that stage in your life when grownups look at you with empathy and tell you You can do whatever you set your mind to, you might feel like you need reassurance for every idea, big or small. But as we grow up and the reality of social norms and the expectations of fitting into the 9-5 pattern kick in, people who are emotionally invested might not be best fit to run by ideas.

You might be thinking – hang on a second, my mom, grandpa or loyal puppy have my best interest at heart. And although that might be the case, new avenues are always scary. Not just for ourselves, but for the people we care about (you can read more about limiting mindsets in the piece on How Much Can You Handle?). Being supportive of new ideas takes an openness that someone else’s judgement might also work. It also takes accepting that even if no one in the family or in the whole world dared to aim so high, that doesn’t mean that it cannot be done.

In the idea phase of a project, when our self-confidence is so fragile, why give an opportunity to nay sayers to deray us? What do we have to lose, ultimately? If it is time you are worried about, it will be time invested in learning. Money? Don’t invest what you can’t afford losing. Failure? You fail if you don’t learn anything from the experience and as a wise mind once said, if you don’t try, you fail by default.

Taking in Other People’s Experiences

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‘We can only learn from our mistakes’

If that was true, how come we can easily repeat not only the mistakes that we know other people have made, but – let’s face it, our own mistakes.

With the same principle in mind, we should be able to learn from different sources rather than through putting ourselves at risk unconsciously. I came across an YouTuber reaction to their videos from 10 years ago. There was no harsh criticism and I admired that, but when the 10 years younger self said ‘I’m so busy with school, I don’t have time to do more videos’, looking back they actually remembered people making fun of the videos at school. This allowed my own fear of failure to surface – all the ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘Why would anyone appreciate my work’. The little voice that whispers insecurities in a scripted loop.

Hearing another person’s experience about facing their own fears taught me more about pain and pleasure, the balance between what we perceive and what we allow others to project on us than any self-growth book. It sometimes takes unexpected triggers to help us address our fears and these triggers don’t always have to come from our lived experience.

Listen. There’s more going on than it meets the eye.

What It Takes to Be Wrong, to Fail, to Be Misunderstood

Differences and similarities with other people are not accurate forms of self-characterization. We seek allies and perhaps people to call enemies in attempts to understand ourselves. We reduce our world to the people that intersect it and allow them to reflect on us. We shrink into being.

*Be careful* *You might fall* *You might fail* *I told you so* *You’re wrong*

There are vast examples of how not to be wrong, not to fail or be misunderstood. They’re all values of the temple of fear that we worship. What does it take to be wrong, to fail or be misunderstood? Trying in the first place. But guess what? This is exactly what it takes to be right, succeed and be supported and it’s highly unlikely that the second will happen without the first.

As far as the awareness of our five senses informs us, we are beings of this life. We get this one chance to be who we want to be. Start building yourself up and don’t look around you for advise. Look ahead of you. People who made progress understand that skill sharing and shared life lessons are brings value to everyone to involved. Don’t worry about being wrong or failing or being misunderstood. Worry about being quiet, passive, ignorant. Progress happens in motion so start moving.