Day 2 – Take 2 – Measuring Success Against Failure

Today I experienced time differently. After a rough morning of battling my mind for 35 minutes I’ve managed to push myself to follow through. It wasn’t until almost 18 hours later that I can look back and appreciate that what in the early hours felt like a major failure, when measured against how the rest of the day went, becomes insignificant.

There is value in being able to focus on the success in order to keep on building.

Photo by Diana Polekhina on Unsplash

Day 5: Know Where to Go for Help

Someone once told me that whatever the issue, there is a book somewhere that addresses it. And, as obvious as it may sound, that to me was new.

I’ll be honest and say that at this point I’ve failed more than I’ve succeeded at walking up at 4AM. The positive is that I’ve been able to keep this part of the commitment – writing daily with a 5.30AM delivery time. This means that I need a better strategy for my 4AM endeavours. Postponing so often the 4AM to 5AM means that I’ve been reinforcing this type of behaviour in the past 4 days. I have some readings lined up for today, one of which is the ‘Awaken the Giant Within’ book. I won’t be reading it cover to cover, but focus on some exercises that will help me overcome this challenge.

If you have any books that have been helping you when you got stuck, I’d be happy to learn about it.

When What’s Right by Others Isn’t Right for You

Photo by Nathan Duck

We all have experienced at least one moment in life when our decision was overridden and there was nothing we could do about it. If this happened at a young age, we learnt to put up less resistance going forward up to a point when even being proper adults doesn’t change our approach towards how we treat life, decisions and things coming our way. We sometimes forget that other people made decisions that weren’t in our best interest. It was comfortable for them not to have to deal with the prospects of success or failure. Not having to bother. But nothing happens unless we take responsibility and do what’s right for us.

Slipping Off – Who’s at a Loss?

Photo by Zane Lee

The cheat mentality is responsible for many of our downfalls and the most negative impact attracted by this poor choice is felt by the person making the choice. Let’s unpack.

Cheating on your homework or an exam? Free gratification that teaches us we must be applauded when we’re not putting in the effort.

Cheating on someone romantically? Impacts the self-esteem, attracts guilt and destroys relationships that could have had a more peaceful fallout.

Cheating the law? The fear of being caught and the guilt can bring misery.

Going back to bed in the morning? Well, time slept is time not lived. Time slept when our body and mind had enough sleep is an insult to our being. We deliberately choose to put ourselves on hold, to cross off time from our life. Time we will never get back.

Slipping off is failure as long as we keep on slipping and do nothing to adjust our course. But slipping off also teaches us how to navigate through life and to maintain balance when we are likely to slip off. What are you going to do differently?

How Are You Modelling Your Future?

Photo by Alex Jones

The array of objects that we surround ourselves with every day is likely higher than the number of people we’ve met throughout our entire life. As extreme as it might sound, each of us will meet on average 80,000 people throughout our entire life and as it goes for the items that we own, an average American household has around 300,000 items.

It’s easy to get anchored into the material reality and care more about the immediate dopamine spike given by a new purchase than the long term rewards, but scrolling through shopping websites leaves less time for introspection and reflection to identify those long-term goals. Shopping, replacing items and redecorating are all activities that give the illusion of achievement. The results that we see now have been seeded months or years ago. Same goes for a lack of success. A lack of success can either indicate that we are on our way to create it or that we are walking on infertile soil. How do you fertilize your life to let yourself bloom?

What Can I Do to Make It Count?

Photo by Kevin Ku

Excitement and motivation have an expiry date on them. They are products of our thinking and our environment and can only be consumed within a certain time frame. We then move on to pure willpower and once that fades away, there are two options: a feeling of worthlessness and/or a built up desire to push through the process.

Regardless of the stage of the cycle we are at in life, to make every moment count means to stay present while being aware of the future implications of our decisions. We can only act now, but we have an understanding of the law of action and consequence that we must bare in mind. And although we cannot predict the future, we can ensure the highest success rate through decisions that might be uncomfortable in the now, to say the least.