Keeping Pine Trees in the Forest or How to Manage Christmas Expectations

Christmas is often a big deal. If not to us, then to someone who means a great deal to us. If the story of Santa and the magic around traditions didn’t convince you by now to get all jolly during this time of the year, here are some things you can do to ‘do you’ this Christmas.

  1. Keep Christmas Gifts to a Minimum. Gifts often make people feel like they owe something to the person giving them the gift. They also add a lot of pressure on both sides. Have conversations with the people you care about – ‘Hey, are you doing gifts this year? Because I’m … lacking inspiration / saving up for something else / I would much rather have us enjoy a meal together than doing a gift’. This might bring more value to your lives.
  2. Be Precious with Your Time. Just because this is historically a family holiday it doesn’t mean you should sacrifice your own wellbeing to please other people. The feeling of love in a family is independent from a day once a year that pushes us into it. It’s okay to come together, have a meal, a laugh and a good time in any other day of the year.
  3. Preserve your energy. Big gatherings can take a lot of energy due to overeating, overdrinking, oversocialising and allowing no time for recovery. Time off around Christmas is for the celebration itself. If you’re going back to work exhausted or you’ve focused more on pleasing others than recharging maybe it’s time to pace yourself this Christmas.

Wishing you steady holidays!

The Enemies of Time

The time we gift people around us not just in the moment but in the entirety of our lives represents power. Power of manifesting intentions. Power to impact our lives.

Oftentimes there are punching interactions – a words exchange or non-verbal communication that express the rapport between people. And too many times those interactions make a mark on us.

We dwell in the feelings that erupt from having our own thoughts violated, taken away from us and replaced with memories of the unexpected, not justified encounter. Annoyance, anger, hatred. We might have failed to react in the moment, and although the moment is still with us, we don’t take action.

The action to stand up and give a voice to the uncomfortable need-to-have conversations.