Doing What’s Right Can Seem Unfair

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All we can see are actions and their results. But the thought process can reveal that actions that don’t look impressive in the real world, are often times the better option. We not only have different ways of seeing the world, but due to our values and priorities some decisions can seem unfair to the naked eye. What do you do in those situation? Ultimately it comes down to: would you rather sleep well at night knowing that you followed through with the best option or do what other people expect you to do? Which of the options would contribute to your sense of self-worth and which one would make you feel a puppet?

Identity Non-Negociable

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When was the last time you sacrificed your way of being to please others? It might be when you decided to change your hairstyle for someone else, to gain or lose weight, to grow into a certain passion just so you can fit in. Whatever it might, we often are not aware of how fragile we truly are. Although change and influence can work for the best, it has to come from a place of growth instead of the opposite.

What long-lasting change would you like to see in yourself? Write it down on the board. Then plan. What would it take? How would that make you feel? Is it worth it?

Discipline and Pushing Feelings Aside

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Self-discipline can be challenging to acquire particularly if you’ve allowed feelings of blame and pity sneak in and take away your focus. Getting things done is just about that: planning and executing. It is not about expecting anything from anyone, but from yourself. Demanding that you perform at your highest level will deliver the results you want. And you can’t take a holiday from that. Set your mind to success and your actions will follow.

Taking Responsibility

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That time you walked into a door, you said the wrong thing, you’ve been absent and worried instead of present and aware. All that is your responsibility. Things can happen, but the way they happen to you is different from how they happen to anyone else. And all this is how your process and perceive what is happening around you and how you choose to respond. Taking responsibility is the first step into the right direction.

Getting Started Is 80% of Getting the Work Done

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Are you still thinking of what you have to do? Fantasizing? Wishing that you will wake up one day and find not only that the work is done, but that you did it without any effort and you are able to take pride in it? This is what a dream assassin looks like. Without action dreams fade away into the memory land, but not before impacting our self-esteem and joy of living.

If you spend most of your time ‘planning’ and ‘researching’ without getting your hands dirty, know that these are all excuses. Roll up your sleeves, follow leads, fail, get back on track. Succeed. You’re 20% left to succeed.

How Are You Modelling Your Future?

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The array of objects that we surround ourselves with every day is likely higher than the number of people we’ve met throughout our entire life. As extreme as it might sound, each of us will meet on average 80,000 people throughout our entire life and as it goes for the items that we own, an average American household has around 300,000 items.

It’s easy to get anchored into the material reality and care more about the immediate dopamine spike given by a new purchase than the long term rewards, but scrolling through shopping websites leaves less time for introspection and reflection to identify those long-term goals. Shopping, replacing items and redecorating are all activities that give the illusion of achievement. The results that we see now have been seeded months or years ago. Same goes for a lack of success. A lack of success can either indicate that we are on our way to create it or that we are walking on infertile soil. How do you fertilize your life to let yourself bloom?