Declutter and Really Do Say ‘I Do’ to Every Single Shopping Item

Waste is one of the great burdens of our times to which we all contribute involuntarily. A great part of it has to do with our mindset. During my upbringing I remember needing new clothes every season as I would grow out of it. No one really told me that that’s specific to the age I’m at, so it wasn’t until I owned seven different coats that I had to reevaluate my shopping habits.

How to Keep Purchases to a Minimum

There’s a great deal of literature on decluttering and Marie Kondo’s book and Netflix series really hit a nail. What is equally important is what’s next? How do we manage the impulse of instant gratification that buying something new gives us?

  1. Identify the need. Is it a real, practical concern that needs addressing? Or will buying this new thing temporarily cover a void within yourself?
  2. Repurpose. Food containers, boxes, clothes, they can all serve multiple purposes. Give them the chance to serve to their full ability.
  3. How long is forever? You’re thinking of getting a DVD or some new curtains? Is it a one time use? If so, would it serve you better going to the cinema or washing/painting your old curtains? Only buy something if you can truly commit to it being part of your life forever.

We get far more out of lived experiences and a spacious environment than from physical possessions. Our spending habits don’t involve only money, but the time we have to put in dealing with the claustrophobic presence of things cluttering our environment and then disposing of them. Plan ahead and give yourself the headspace and extra time to enjoy it.

How to Escape the Bubble of Our Own Existence

We base our reality on assumptions that have been confirmed often enough to become our perceived reality. All assumptions are false to a certain degree, which means that reality as we know it is debatable. What we assume that is socially acceptable today might change ‘tomorrow’. The change doesn’t really happen overnight, we stop checking in with the outside world. The assumption has then become belief.

Beliefs keep us sane. Imagine living in a continuous state of unknown – we wouldn’t have headspace for anything else but making sense of the world. What we need to admit to ourselves is that we are not superior to other beings because of our perceived sense of reality.

We can manifest intelligence by being aware that our reality keeps us anchored without needing the world to conform to our views. Then we can be welcoming of other views without thinking that we risk the sense of security that our own perspective gives us in life.

Boxing Irrelevant Memories into the Unknown & Clearing Headspace

When we think about compartmentalizing information it must be a negative experience that we want to discard of, right? Not quite. Unnecessary information is just as damaging.

Have you ever noticed how people walking on the street or relaxing by the pool speak to someone in their own mind? Repeating in our mind circumstances that caught us off-guard is detrimental. What are the chances of meeting with the exact same circumstances and that our conversation partner will give us the same lines? I dare to say – close to 0.

A technique I use successfully when winding down is to recognize when uninvited thoughts want to take over my day and crumple them into paper snowballs. I then throw them far away into the back of my mind. They sometimes crawl back into the present moment, but it’s easier to recognize them a second time and throw them away until they become insignificant.

If you are allowing past experiences take your headspace in the now, give it a try. Optimize your mind to nurture thoughts that bring value. Clear space for mindful living. You’d be surprised of how far you can aim in keeping useless facts and memories away: identify – crumple – throw.

One Tactic to Make Yourself Likeable

Perception plays a great role in the relationships we form. Clicking with someone might not always come as naturally as it looks. People try consciously mirroring the other person’s body language or smiling a lot.

They’re all good efforts but there’s one thing that can save us a lot of trouble.

Genuinely Liking People

Evidence shows that the most popular children in school are not the best looking ones or the rich ones. They’re the children who actually like other people.

If we question why we like or dislike people, what is the rational behind it? Why do we give up headspace to let in judgmental thoughts take over? Is it so we can make ourselves feel better by comparing ourselves with other people? Is it to protect ourselves from potential rejection? Is it fear?

You can identify your ‘Why’ by trying to catch the thoughts in action.

Stop. Think. Assess.

You might be missing out on parts of the reality that can add value to your life while indulging in shallow criticism of others. Are you happy with the trade?