Day 9: Being Happy Can Only Happen Now

The energy cycles that we are experiencing are not limited to the nature’s seasons. We can have days or weeks when we need to give ourselves the time to re-center. This doesn’t mean doing nothing, but doing things that bring us joy. I used to think that putting my head on the pillow at night and thinking of what I achieved was enough, but I’ve added the thought of ‘What did I enjoy doing today?’ as an equally important success measure for the day.

I haven’t mentioned 4AM in my posts lately because I am far from succeeding at this challenge. But taking on this responsibility helped me identify things that I need to improve on my day to day life. This includes introducing joyful activities as a must on my schedule. What can you do today to be happy?

Does Fear Really Keep Us Safe?

Photo by Marina Vitale

We rely on our instincts without processing most of the times that we are doing so. This may be when crossing the street, choosing to avoid people or phone someone on our way home because we are feeling unsafe. There are occasions when we are getting mixed signals and despite everything being in place, anxiety creeps in and takes over.

In the animal kingdom, when predators smell fear they are more enticed to chase up their pray. What makes us think that humans are not the same? Showing confidence in our bodies not only gives us a sense of security, but it gives us power over people who are looking to take advantage of the vulnerable.

Fear works to a certain degree, when the reactions it generates do work in our favor, in the moment. But when we are projecting over the future and we choose fear over the light we can build ourselves towards, we are letting ourselves down. It may sometimes depend on a sharper walk, therapy sessions, martial arts or meditation. Whatever it is, taking action means taking control.

self-Doubt and Doubting Intentions

Photo by Katrina

We oftentimes believe that we’re doing a great job in wrapping ourselves in a shiny display of perfection until we break down at the smallest comment. More than a misplaced statements, what these reactions reveal are our biggest fears, doubts and challenges.

After soothing the wound it’s important to understand the cause. Why do we hold ourselves to standards that we are capable of achieving, without acknowledging the processes behind? For it’s clearly the fear of failure. As much as I write and talk about failure being part of success, it takes careful inner work to actually embrace it.

Adopt a practice that reminds you that you are worthy of success and capable of achieving great things. Surround yourself by people who can see you being your vulnerable self and carry on believing that you can achieving everything you set your mind to. Once the emotions are tucked in for serene sleep, analyse the situation: where do you want to go and what will take you there? Who can help you along the way and where do you have to do cut downs?

The more time you invest in planning, the less time will fear and self-doubt have to manifest itself.