Only through setting an aim can we achieve it. Otherwise, regardless if we are doing many tasks, if they don’t amount to something that we are proud of, we will spend our entire life chasing things outside us to make us happy. If you know that tomorrow you will be in a different place from where you were today, both in time and space, in the universe, would you choose where you want to be?
Confidence isn’t confrontation or stepping on someone else to feel high. It’s walking with grace knowing that whatever happens you’ve got this. It’s the inner battle, the wishes and the doubts, the effort and the failures that lead to success. They all build confidence when we make sure that we don’t hurt others in the process of getting big. At that point, the illusion of confidence is just that, an illusion.
How often did you lose your temper or words didn’t really form the way they should and you looked for a way out in the intention you’ve set? The intention is valued very little if it’s not formed in an open and kind way. Love cannot be portrayed through negative attitudes as much as we like to lie to ourselves and tell ourselves that that’s alright. It shouldn’t be. Act from a place of love with kindness and you are more likely to get the response you are after.
It’s okay slagging off, falling behind, not putting in 100% effort is what every person unhappy with their performance says to themselves. But is it really? Somewhere in the world there is another person chasing your dream. If you don’t go after it, someone else will. If you don’t commit to change yourself, change your life into the vision you have for yourself, someone else will. And the harsh reality is that you won’t even be noticed or missed.
Our identity morphs throughout our existence. At first, we change with every interaction and later we start to find a sense of self and align ourselves instinctively with people who share our values. By the time that sense of self kicks in, we might have consumed quite a few unfiltered beliefs. The challenge is building the sense of self while building a better you.
If you are like me and you had an interest at any point in life and you were swayed away from it without even realizing it, you’ll understand the power that other people’s believes hold on us. The paradox is that growing takes selective learning based on self-founded values. But to build these values, we need to explore and learn. Both processes happen in parallel. By being aware of this happening as much as we can, we can make a conscious decision on what the renewed foundation, the renewed self will be and how to build on it.
Success is attainable through deliberate effort. This means not wishing for it, but planning for it. It all starts with what we have to offer and that doesn’t really mean a degree or a letter of recommendation. It simply refers to what skills we have that can be of use to others.
Preparing for success is a mixture of discipline, training and having a clear focus. Superior characteristics are not inborn, but acquired throughout life. Building ourselves up for success comes with superpowers, such as saying no to the easy and yes to delaying gratification.
The best to come is the best of us that has ever existed. We sometimes look around us and see people who haven’t moved an inch from where they were a year ago – not in their beliefs, not in their personal interests. That is what instant gratification looks like in the long-term. Where do you want to go and what can you do every single day that will help you progress?