And How Are You? Check on People Who Might Not Be Within Your Inner Circle

While this time of the year is a great excuse to appreciate who we’ve got in our lives, let’s take a look further at distant friends or acquaintances who might be going through a rough path.

Celebrations that force us to come closer together are also amplifying feelings of loneliness and loss. If you have someone in mind who you think would receive well some seasonal greetings from you, create a window for them in case the answer to – How are you celebrating? – comes empty handed.

More than time with family and friends, what we can get out of this season in the few days off is ultimately time. Be active, start on that workout DVD that’s gathering dust on the bookshelf, or an unsolved puzzle, a new book, a new skill you never thought you’d have time for.

Having a new ‘thing’ going on makes us more interesting humans. It gives us something to connect over with people with similar interests. This time of the year can be great to make radical changes in our lives. Give yourself the gift of doing something you absolutely enjoy. Something that you’ll be benefiting from on the long run ideally. A gift that outruns any holidays and will serve you well in years to come.

Let me know in the comments what you would or will choose to invest your time in these holidays.

Keeping Pine Trees in the Forest or How to Manage Christmas Expectations

Christmas is often a big deal. If not to us, then to someone who means a great deal to us. If the story of Santa and the magic around traditions didn’t convince you by now to get all jolly during this time of the year, here are some things you can do to ‘do you’ this Christmas.

  1. Keep Christmas Gifts to a Minimum. Gifts often make people feel like they owe something to the person giving them the gift. They also add a lot of pressure on both sides. Have conversations with the people you care about – ‘Hey, are you doing gifts this year? Because I’m … lacking inspiration / saving up for something else / I would much rather have us enjoy a meal together than doing a gift’. This might bring more value to your lives.
  2. Be Precious with Your Time. Just because this is historically a family holiday it doesn’t mean you should sacrifice your own wellbeing to please other people. The feeling of love in a family is independent from a day once a year that pushes us into it. It’s okay to come together, have a meal, a laugh and a good time in any other day of the year.
  3. Preserve your energy. Big gatherings can take a lot of energy due to overeating, overdrinking, oversocialising and allowing no time for recovery. Time off around Christmas is for the celebration itself. If you’re going back to work exhausted or you’ve focused more on pleasing others than recharging maybe it’s time to pace yourself this Christmas.

Wishing you steady holidays!