There are days when your mind listens to you but not your body. When you feel able, but have limitations. That’s okay. Listening to your body means acknowledging what is happening within you as oppose to what you want the reality to be. Give yourself time to recover and focus on creating the reality once you are ready. Make sure you don’t extend your body’s limitations unnecessarily. Being fair to yourself also means taking a break when you need to and pressing on when you can.
We raise our voice, stamp our foot and clench our fist – all signs of power that we rob our opponent from. How do we manage a conversation without feeding into this destructive pattern?
- We quietly listen, without interrupting our counterpart.
- We ask ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions – what do you think we should do next? How would you act if you were me?
- We treat the other person the way we would like them to treat us: with calm, respect and consideration
This is not as easy as 1, 2, 3 but I know that whenever I don’t give into the other person’s rage fit I feel better about myself. I might still not feel 100% ponies on the field tea party but I feel better than the times when I try to match anger with anger.
As a long term strategy, simply avoiding people who put all their emotions into an anger pot works better than managing constant friction. Choose your daily interactions carefully, every person we meet shapes our behavior and, to a certain degree, our identity.