Day 2 – Take 2 – Measuring Success Against Failure

Today I experienced time differently. After a rough morning of battling my mind for 35 minutes I’ve managed to push myself to follow through. It wasn’t until almost 18 hours later that I can look back and appreciate that what in the early hours felt like a major failure, when measured against how the rest of the day went, becomes insignificant.

There is value in being able to focus on the success in order to keep on building.

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Day 1: Making the Most Out of the Time We’ve Got

Have you ever noticed how time seems to vanish? The time between Mondays and Fridays, or just between the beginning of summer and the end of it. Although it might feel like there is nothing in between, there is. If anything, your bills are a constant reminder that something did happen. I would call though those anchor moments, moments of awareness. When something so powerful is happening to you that it shakes you off a loop of habitual living, of mindlessly just getting by. Those moments of awareness are your time to make decisions.

The best decision one can make is to create more moments of being here, now, 100%. You don’t have to make radical changes in your life unless you want to, but living life responsibly means more than just staying in your own corner and hoping not to do anything out of sync with the rest of the world. It means that you have responsibility towards yourself, the people in your life, all beings on Earth, our very own planet, the Universe, everyone is keeping you accountable to MAKE EVERY MOMENT MATTER. Because, guess what? It does.

Give Space

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We are given the space to live on Earth and we took most of it. Our physical reality feels more immediate because of how much time we devote to it. We therefor tend to accept mainly the things and beings that allow us to control them and then revolt against the weeds in ‘our’ garden, the birds flying above ‘our’ houses, the fly on the ceiling. We took ownership to the extend of thinking of ourselves as gods and goddesses, ironically disconnected from the bigger dialogue, from the universal sense of belonging.

So today, whichever day you are living, give space. Give space to life to manifest itself without the threat of the controlling mind. Give space to yourself to pause the thinking and the paining, the need for control. Look around you. Look inside you. Find a space for forgiving every moment, so that you don’t have to look back with pain and guilt. Find a space for love. You will see that love is not a memory or a five year plan. Love can only be felt in the present moment. Give yourself space to be.

Reflections inspired by ‘The Power of Now’, Eckhart Tolle.

Keeping Ourselves to a Higher Standard

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It’s okay slagging off, falling behind, not putting in 100% effort is what every person unhappy with their performance says to themselves. But is it really? Somewhere in the world there is another person chasing your dream. If you don’t go after it, someone else will. If you don’t commit to change yourself, change your life into the vision you have for yourself, someone else will. And the harsh reality is that you won’t even be noticed or missed.

What Can I Do to Make It Count?

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Excitement and motivation have an expiry date on them. They are products of our thinking and our environment and can only be consumed within a certain time frame. We then move on to pure willpower and once that fades away, there are two options: a feeling of worthlessness and/or a built up desire to push through the process.

Regardless of the stage of the cycle we are at in life, to make every moment count means to stay present while being aware of the future implications of our decisions. We can only act now, but we have an understanding of the law of action and consequence that we must bare in mind. And although we cannot predict the future, we can ensure the highest success rate through decisions that might be uncomfortable in the now, to say the least.

What You’re Telling Yourself Will Always Hit Home

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Are you looking around you for a strong support? Inspiration. Motivation. Discipline. A plan? Regardless of who you’re meeting and what you are told, you are the one filtering the information. When we choose to think that someone gives us positive feedback because they’re being nice, we neutralize a powerful source that can fuel our self-confidence and help us sky-rocket through doubts, all the way into action.

There is zero value in putting ourselves down, and yet it happens. Our primitive mind wishes to keep us safe when it perceives danger that is not real – public speaking, starting a conversation, asking someone out etc. Tuning into the messages of growth over the messages that are belittling is a personal choice. As someone once said, growth begins at the edge of our comfort zone. We have the power to surpass our limits and that begins with what we think and how we convey it.