We sometimes fail to recognize that what’s immediately in front of us is not what our whole life is about. We have the ability to shift focus and give importance to aspects of life that can bring joy rather than sadness. Or we can indulge in our own misery, find some good company in people who have similar interests and forget that life is an opportunity. And just like any opportunity, we can take it or put it on hold until ‘someday’.
Every now and then the time comes to face the way things fall into place in our lives. This can be caused by the way we are treated or by seeing things that we wish we can fix and we feel like we don’t have the power to do it. When we look around us and the way we live our life is not a reflection of our aspirations or of the road that will take us there, it’s time to reassess where we’re standing and who we truly serve.
Serving a purpose is different from being a tool in someone’s toolkit. Due to market changes and our own perceived needs, we often jump at the first chance we get. Saying no to opportunity is part of the process of discovering and/or creating opportunities that allow us to grow towards fulfilling our true potential.
Building ourselves up towards fulfilling our dreams is more likely to help us live a life of purpose and a life of no regrets. Stand up for yourself. Serve a purpose you chose.
We don’t often have the opportunity to boil down our existence to three essential things that we need. Adversity offers such an opportunity. It’s a chance to revisit decisions made a while back, decisions that became part of our identity or worse, became our identity.
What matters in life? Is it family, money, love, recognition? The need to sacrifice ourselves for the greater good? Having a walk with a loved one? As life changes, so does what matters to everyone of us. Now for many people it’s important to feel safe and to be safe. What are you willing to sacrifice to make that happen?
Anger is one of the most threatening emotional states. Due to its intensity, it overclouds our judgement and leaves us bare. Once consumed by it we feel small and helpless, not to mention how anyone who sensed our rage might feel.
The bridge from anger to serenity needs to be build up from both directions – managing the external and the internal. Serenity is a self-contained state of calm, while anger is disturbance and aggressive behavior. At times of serenity we can take the opportunity and unpack triggers, understand the source of our reactions. In times of anger we need to look at ourselves through someone else’s eyes and learn how to navigate feelings that don’t benefit us.
Life is not a straight line. Anger is a sign of weakness or lack. Anger is a sign that we need to work harder to understand ourselves and others. And once we address whatever it is that anger is trying to show us, we can make room for serenity.
Mondays might have changed for some people, but the only thing that changed for me is the added stress.
For those of us who can take time off during these times willingly or imposed, this is a great opportunity to reassess where we stand and envision a life where Mondays are a reason for joy rather than despair. And instead of waiting for this dark cloud to go away and life to resume as normal, start by building yourself up.
Build an evening and morning ritual that will get you excited about the day ahead. Practice gratitude, meditate to find inner calm and put positive thoughts into the universe. Having a great day is more likely to happen if that’s the intention for the day. Let’s neutralize the negativity around Mondays and give our appreciation to time.
The rational answer is ‘no’, but our natural instinct often says otherwise. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves in making sure that we don’t miss out on opportunities. If you’re at the early stages in creating a business, the culture of many entrepreneurs can be hard work rather than smart work.
Think about how much more effective would be to work those extensive hours on smart work. Every human interaction is an opportunity to learn, but the lesson might at times be that you’d like to do things differently. Learn from other people’s burnout before experiencing it yourself and understand that long hours at a low productivity rate are counterproductive.
The more opportunities we pursue, the more we increase our chance of success. If we can’t put in much effort into any of these chances, we are at risk of covering too much ground with too little attention to detail. Knowing our limitations means that we can turn our assets into great advantages.