You Are Enough, Start Building on It

Photo by Gem Salcedo

Looking around us at what we perceive as the successful and the beautiful, it’s easy to think that success is further away from us than we think. The truth is that in-between ourselves and success is our commitment and discipline to make things happen.

Many industries are built on profiting from people’s insecurities or inability to think that they have what it takes. This includes reality shows, vlogs, the beauty industry and all the easy fixes/instant schemes that will make you rich or beautiful or both.

It is sometimes challenging to look in the mirror and accept that what we have to work with is enough. That we are more than capable to put in the effort and bridge the gap between where we are standing and where we want to be. Stop waiting for things to happen or finding reasons to not even try to put in the effort. Focus on yourself and start building. You’ve got this.

Self-Discipline for MEssy People: Why Is It So Hard

Photo by Maarten van den Heuvel 

As much as we like to find excuses in how busy we are or how challenging our life is, personally I still sometimes find myself stuck in the loop of nonproductive behavior.

Keeping track of every move we make is tiring on its own, but people who have made considerable progress in their area of interest have done so by measuring progress. We celebrate birthdays and a new year not just for the opportunity to party, but because we can look back at how far we came.

Tracking progress weekly does add meaning to the one year milestones we’ve set. It helps us stay on track and if binge-watching Netflix for a week is a poor use of time, imagine what it means doing so for a full year. Time to get our house in order. What is the one thing you want to focus on? By setting a priority discipline will naturally follow.

The ‘Letting the Bus Go’ Exercise

Photo by Lawless Capture

Accepting how much we can achieve under time pressure without allowing panic to take over can be challenging. How often do we run into situations over which we don’t have much control, such as catching a bus ‘on time’ when it’s early? How do you react? Do you calmly head towards the bus stop or do your feet start running without processing what’s going on?

In my case, it has always been the second option. There might be a slight connection with my experience as a child, when I would see the bus from the top of the hill on a parallel road and I had to outrun it to the bus stop so I could make it to school on time.

Today I was advised to do the ‘letting the bus go’ exercise. It simply involved watching buses go into the direction I was headed, without catching them. My heart raced every time a bus reached their stop. I was ready to sprint, wave and position myself in front of the bus if need be just to get in. That was my fight instinct, a beautiful genetic heritage which in the world of having a bus scheduled every 10 minutes it only gives me stomach ache.

What is your ‘letting the bus go’ exercise that you need in order to improve your life?

The Negativity Chain: How to Break It

Photo by Mario Purisic 

We live and act within negative and positive fields of energy. We carry both within us and we choose every second what to focus on. Each choice attracts more of the same. People who choose the positive over the negative don’t go into a time bubble with people alike though. We all mix in a smoothie of emotions. This means that we are all exposed to both energies.

How Do You Stop Perpetuating the Negative?

One thing is to not let it affect you, but what has an even greater influence is not letting a negative behavior burst over someone else. Don’t take it out on someone else. Don’t become the person who hurt you in the first place. Break the chain, be kind.