The Effects of Personal Growth on Others

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Cultures in which status differences are seen as the doom of relationships embrace a fixed way of thinking. The belief that two people from different backgrounds, with different education and wealth cannot mix might sound archaic, but it’s still present. It might not be as obviously exposed, but remarks such as – what if he or she gets jealous, what if you have to give up your career or all your hard work? What if you need to stop growing? These are all questions that show a fixed mindset projected on others.

Self-growth is a personal experience. Those around us can decide to join us, put us down or observe us from a distance. It might be challenging pushing forward and connecting with other people that we resonate with at a different level, but it is often necessary. We shouldn’t shy away from putting our own self-growth first and other people’s feelings about how we live our life second.

If You’re Stressed, Worried or Annoyed, Something Has to Change

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Looking around us, we see enough examples of people who settle to live in a rhythm and emotional frequency that is not sustainable, nor is it healthy. Running from one place to another, wearing themselves off and doing little to grow strong, healthy relationships. To some, this may seem like the only way further. But knowing that stress and all the negative emotions are poisonous to our bodies must be enough to encourage change.

There are different ways to experience life, and choosing kindness, generosity and good intentions makes room for growth, while envy, selfishness and negativity is detrimental to the surroundings and to the host. It can be challenging at times to see hate and answer with love, but it’s the only way in which we can protect ourselves and others as much as we can. Through fairytales we learn that dark magic costs one’s soul. Why did we ever think that letting anger or sadness in would have a different result?

The Advice that No One Wants Is the Advice We Should Stop on Giving

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The advice that no one wants is the one that we deliver regardless for selfish reasons. We have an opinion and we believe we should always have a say. While no one can take that away from us, having a say over putting the best interest of the other person first damages relationships.

In certain cultural being franc is interpreted as being honest. But no one wants brutal honesty 24/7. Sometimes we just want to go out and feeling good about ourselves. We want to have a friendly meal or party without fearing that what we do might get us the disapproval of the other person.

As someone who thought at some point that my opinion matters over other people’s feelings, here’s what I’ve learnt: what you think doesn’t matter as much as how someone is feeling. We can soften our edges and become easy to be around just by being nice to people. Is that really such a great price to pay?

Stressed and Confused? Only You Can Change That

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Does the influx of unwanted information start to take over your life? Are you trapped between worry, stress and uncertainty? Stop. Take a deep breath. Clear your thoughts. We are all faced with a choice.

As comfortable as the victim mindset makes us feel, it’s detrimental to our wellbeing. So then what can we do? If we’d see the wave coming we most likely won’t run towards it. Similarly, facing the avalanche of bad news and misinformation, what makes us think that being swamped by negativity will have the opposite effect: positivity, regeneration and growth?

To regain calm we need to anchor ourselves into a reality that we can work towards. We can envision health and prosperity and even if these ideas are being challenged at the moment, what projecting misery achieves is only making room for misery.

We may not be able to change the world around us, but we can change the world we build and we project. Let’s make the world shine with the beauty of our thoughts and the strength of our emotions.

Positive Self-Talk

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You know all those negative thoughts racing through your mind? It’s time to put a stop to that. Particularly in the current climate where The Negative is feeding so many industries that are inflicting pain on us, it’s time to stop.

Replacing the negative self-talk with kindness doesn’t happen through the switch of a button, but it is possible. It firstly takes identifying that thought – I’m in trouble, I can’t make it, this is too much etc and then replacing the thought with it’s positive spin. This needs to happen repeatedly before coming close to an automatic reflex.

Every positive thought that we put into the universe and we help ourselves with is progress. When we are constantly told to be anxious, get angry and harm ourselves just through being stresses, we need to step away and rebuild our reality. Panic harms our ability to react rationally and it eliminates chemicals that damage our body. Let’s check in with ourselves and now more than ever practice positive self-talk.

Lift Your Mood Up By Simply Trying to Be Happy

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Grogginess, grumpiness – not enough coffee, not enough sleep – they’re all situations and states of being you can control. Even rudeness is curable. All it takes is putting yourself in the shoes of the people you interact with the most and ask yourself – would I want to be around myself?

Do I bring joy to others? Do I bring joy in my life just through positive thinking and having an uplifting attitude?

It might sometimes be challenging to admit that your emotions are within your control, but ultimately accepting the reality allow us to change it. How do you want to live your life? Do you want to age with kindness or with an upside down smile? Do you want to be surrounded by people who have wrinkles because of the anger or because of the laughter? Whatever we choose, change begins with ourselves.