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Is Giving Up Ever an Option?

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Most of us have given up on something at some point in our lives. Giving up is not memorable to the outer world because no one gets to see our work or hear about our initiatives. Ideas that materialize can bring value to the world around us, but ideas can also have a negative value. They can instill a feeling of self-defeat and guilt if we give up without taking a chance.

Re-framing our reality can help us pick up an initiative where we left it, follow through with it and succeed. Reviewing an old initiative through a fresh lens is enough to add to the story of creation.

‘I started this project two years ago, took a break and now I am back on it with a clearer view or a more mature mind’ or ‘I started this project two years ago and when I revisited it I realized that it wouldn’t have worked in that format. I now have a better understanding of how to improve it’.

There is the other side of the coin though, which allows self-doubt to make the call and await for perfection. Perfection is in the process. Allowing time to pass will not attract results unless we do work on ourselves and on what we are trying to accomplish. Giving up? What does that even mean?

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The Advice that No One Wants Is the Advice We Should Stop on Giving

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The advice that no one wants is the one that we deliver regardless for selfish reasons. We have an opinion and we believe we should always have a say. While no one can take that away from us, having a say over putting the best interest of the other person first damages relationships.

In certain cultural being franc is interpreted as being honest. But no one wants brutal honesty 24/7. Sometimes we just want to go out and feeling good about ourselves. We want to have a friendly meal or party without fearing that what we do might get us the disapproval of the other person.

As someone who thought at some point that my opinion matters over other people’s feelings, here’s what I’ve learnt: what you think doesn’t matter as much as how someone is feeling. We can soften our edges and become easy to be around just by being nice to people. Is that really such a great price to pay?

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Stressed and Confused? Only You Can Change That

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Does the influx of unwanted information start to take over your life? Are you trapped between worry, stress and uncertainty? Stop. Take a deep breath. Clear your thoughts. We are all faced with a choice.

As comfortable as the victim mindset makes us feel, it’s detrimental to our wellbeing. So then what can we do? If we’d see the wave coming we most likely won’t run towards it. Similarly, facing the avalanche of bad news and misinformation, what makes us think that being swamped by negativity will have the opposite effect: positivity, regeneration and growth?

To regain calm we need to anchor ourselves into a reality that we can work towards. We can envision health and prosperity and even if these ideas are being challenged at the moment, what projecting misery achieves is only making room for misery.

We may not be able to change the world around us, but we can change the world we build and we project. Let’s make the world shine with the beauty of our thoughts and the strength of our emotions.

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Lift Your Mood Up By Simply Trying to Be Happy

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Grogginess, grumpiness – not enough coffee, not enough sleep – they’re all situations and states of being you can control. Even rudeness is curable. All it takes is putting yourself in the shoes of the people you interact with the most and ask yourself – would I want to be around myself?

Do I bring joy to others? Do I bring joy in my life just through positive thinking and having an uplifting attitude?

It might sometimes be challenging to admit that your emotions are within your control, but ultimately accepting the reality allow us to change it. How do you want to live your life? Do you want to age with kindness or with an upside down smile? Do you want to be surrounded by people who have wrinkles because of the anger or because of the laughter? Whatever we choose, change begins with ourselves.

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The Negativity Chain: How to Break It

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We live and act within negative and positive fields of energy. We carry both within us and we choose every second what to focus on. Each choice attracts more of the same. People who choose the positive over the negative don’t go into a time bubble with people alike though. We all mix in a smoothie of emotions. This means that we are all exposed to both energies.

How Do You Stop Perpetuating the Negative?

One thing is to not let it affect you, but what has an even greater influence is not letting a negative behavior burst over someone else. Don’t take it out on someone else. Don’t become the person who hurt you in the first place. Break the chain, be kind.

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The Good News Conversations

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Imagine you only have today. What would you say to every single person you meet? What do you want to be remembered by?

I’ve only recently recognized the power of putting positive events at the forefront of my mind and of my conversations. It does exactly what you’d expect it to do: it changes perceptions. It changes how you feel about yourself and how other people perceive you. The way other people perceive you also impacts how you feel about yourself.

Sharing good news lifts spirits up. This doesn’t mean that negative experiences should be dealt with quietly. We can share negative experiences with friends just to feel like we belong, to reassure them that we don’t have it all together. That does everyone a disservice. Asking for advice from people who are in a position to give it or who can support you towards a resolution is valuable.

Share good news instead of bad news and people will come bringing good news to you.

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