The Effects of Personal Growth on Others

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez

Cultures in which status differences are seen as the doom of relationships embrace a fixed way of thinking. The belief that two people from different backgrounds, with different education and wealth cannot mix might sound archaic, but it’s still present. It might not be as obviously exposed, but remarks such as – what if he or she gets jealous, what if you have to give up your career or all your hard work? What if you need to stop growing? These are all questions that show a fixed mindset projected on others.

Self-growth is a personal experience. Those around us can decide to join us, put us down or observe us from a distance. It might be challenging pushing forward and connecting with other people that we resonate with at a different level, but it is often necessary. We shouldn’t shy away from putting our own self-growth first and other people’s feelings about how we live our life second.

Not Knowing Is Okay

Photo by Volodymyr Hryshchenko

I heard somewhere that it’s okay to not know, what matters is to know where you can find the information.

When it comes to our health, not knowing is still okay, but counting on other people to know when needed and allowing ourselves to be let down by systems and processes is not okay. Taking control of what we don’t know and looking at filling in the gaps of knowledge to serve ourselves and others is what really drives progress.

Seeing progress as a worldwide process without thinking that we can be a driving force minimizes our potential. People with degrees who are dropping in pre-defined roles and life templates are not failing themselves and others deliberately. The world seems to have settled into a long blink and when opening the eyes decades letter we realize that things have changed, that we have changes, but we allowed hierarchy to discipline us over natural progress.

Not knowing is okay and embracing the knowledge gap to drive progress is more than okay, is a necessity.

The Dramatic Point in Life.

When we face the conscious decision of choosing road Y or road Z at a crossroad is when the dramatic tension builds. We take into account all the variables. But what if it’s an ‘impossible’ decision? We then spend time in the safe zone, the purgatory of decision-making, thinking that time is our friend, that time can crystallize our views.

The second we say yes or no, leave or stay, change or flatten into our traits, we lose the power of making THAT decision at THAT crossroad. What we gain instead is the power of equally important choices along the way. There is no going back in life – it truly isn’t. We can only explore life head on: adjust, grow, fail, learn, succeed. Always on the move.

Choose Human

Time and time again people do things that shutter our beliefs of what is possible. These actions can be extremely cruel and violent or heartwarming and positive.

We hear about violence occurring out of what once were positive feelings, but I yet have to hear about, let’s say, a butcher going about their workday as usual and deciding to do something different. They might decide to quit their job out of ethical reasons or spare and adopt a little being instead of doing their job.

We go about our lives thinking that we do our best, yet we are often not even halfway through exploring our potential.