It might sound radical, but when was greatness achieved as a result of sluggish work ethic combined with wishes rather than must’s? If you’re worried that once you’ve reached a goal you’ll have nothing to look forward to, stop. Stop treating reality as an experience that ends without you. You can stay connected, create and be aware for as long as you have consciousness. Allow yourself to live in the present and make every minute worth wile.
The future might seem far away, but tomorrow is almost here and it will turn into the now. Where will you be standing today? One step closer to fulfillment or just on step further through time, hoping that life won’t happen to you? Or that time will be forgiving. It never is.
This is quite an old principle that we don’t always acknowledge that it applies to every area of life. If we focus on being late and the consequences it attracts, or missing out on a deadline – it will most likely happen because our brain perceives that as the priority. A great exercise is shifting your perception from what you fear to what you want. Not only will it give you peace of mind in the present moment, but it will turn the future you want into a greater probability.
Our identity morphs throughout our existence. At first, we change with every interaction and later we start to find a sense of self and align ourselves instinctively with people who share our values. By the time that sense of self kicks in, we might have consumed quite a few unfiltered beliefs. The challenge is building the sense of self while building a better you.
If you are like me and you had an interest at any point in life and you were swayed away from it without even realizing it, you’ll understand the power that other people’s believes hold on us. The paradox is that growing takes selective learning based on self-founded values. But to build these values, we need to explore and learn. Both processes happen in parallel. By being aware of this happening as much as we can, we can make a conscious decision on what the renewed foundation, the renewed self will be and how to build on it.
Staying humble about what we think we know might sound unnatural and it definitely can be challenging, considering that we are spending our lives trying to prove ourselves from a young age, but it’s a must. Why? A flexible way of thinking allows us to welcome new information with an open mind. It helps us grow and it helps us adjust.
If you ever worked on a project and found it challenging to adjust to change or to update the plan, then you have an idea as to what the ‘always right’ mind is capable of. A beginner’s mind does the opposite. It allows us to receive new information assuming that the information we already hold might not be the truest representation of the current reality. Our mind has a tendency of staying stuck in the past. Accepting reality as ever-changing is a way of staying present. When we are open to learn, nothing will surprise us.
We grow up into jobs and assume that we’re well and happy. We rely on our status and self-image and the more we do so, we fall apart with who we are. Just like an old friend that we haven’t seen for ages, the disconnect with ourselves is real.
We are in continuous change, as we should be. Our taste buds are changing, our bodies, mind, understanding of the world. Sometimes people feel like the age they were at when they graduated from university, got married or had their child. I believe this reflects the connection that exists between us and the present moment at those times that we see as decisive moments in our lives and they probably are.
Setting goals that mean as much to us as landmarks of life mean to society can be done. What is your next big thing? Even better, what is your first big thing? What is something that’s worth putting your time, energy and money on the line. Get to know yourself now – not just the parent, the graduate, the employee. You you – in the present moment. The world is as big as we perceive it. Think big.