Tag: pride

Give Feedback that Counts

Photo by Christiann Koepke

Language is a superpower. We use it as an expression of our thoughts and feelings and it brings together a representation of who we are. But there are times when what we say doesn’t seem to matter to the other person, although it matters to us and compromising on one’s identity can leave a dent in relationships. Language requires someone to decode it and to understand it, or better yet, someone willing to do all this.

When feedback comes from a place of doubt or hatred, words become parasites. They clutter our judgement and manifest our undignified-self. Stress can cause negative feedback take over pure appreciation. If that’s the case, you’re not doing anyone a favor. Instead, picking one top area of improvement with actionable advice actually works. Aim to improve one thing at a time and you will see growth, personal pride and satisfaction.

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The I’m Not Good Enough Holdback

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We worry about what people might think of us, what if we fail, what if we end up in a loss after making this decision? What if I’m not good enough? I know I worry about these things constantly and the fun bit is that this prevents be from even making a start.

Fear is paralyzing. It makes us think that we are good where we stand at the moment, even if we are tragically unhappy. We tell ourselves that this is what life looks life because we see so many examples of people around us walking dead through life.

The choice to take action is a choice that needs to be taken every single day. Is the choice of making a start. What people think is not relevant. Will you look back on your life 20 years from now thinking:

‘I’m proud of myself because I made people think that I am happy and successful. No one ever doubted it’

Or is it more likely to look back on your life with regret? Let that put things in perspective for you when the I’m not good enough thoughts creep in. You’re good enough and you can only improve from here onwards.

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Success: the Everyday Decision

Photo by Adi Goldstein

How often do you review your goals? Are your everyday actions in line with what you want to achieve?

While we allow our brain to go on autopilot, it doesn’t always choose to create positive, empowering thoughts. It takes daily reminders to think forward and not to get stuck in a loop of randomly picked memories that don’t serve our purpose.

Make it a habit to plan your time in chunks rather than indigestible one year timeline. Don’t wait for a new year to think about what you can achieve and how. Life is now, live with pride and joy.

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