We all have experienced at least one moment in life when our decision was overridden and there was nothing we could do about it. If this happened at a young age, we learnt to put up less resistance going forward up to a point when even being proper adults doesn’t change our approach towards how we treat life, decisions and things coming our way. We sometimes forget that other people made decisions that weren’t in our best interest. It was comfortable for them not to have to deal with the prospects of success or failure. Not having to bother. But nothing happens unless we take responsibility and do what’s right for us.
Have you noticed that you are mid-sentence and you repeat the same thing again and again and again? It’s not for a role you’ve practiced or a conscious decision, it’s your life and that happens. While things may happen weather you are aware of them or not, the responsibility is yours and your alone. We try to find escape, guilt trap people, put others down to feel taller. But nothing works except for real growth, accountability and action. Stop that thought and teach you’re mind who’s in charge.
We spend our formative years adopting other people’s vision of the world, as well as learning from the experiences that we are exposed to. Unavoidable limitations consist of our geography, associations, access to education, the language we speak and more. And because our parents are responsible for us at the start of our life, we might feel like that responsibility applies later and delay taking ownership of who we are and the mark we leave in the world. But trusting someone doesn’t absolve us from responsibility, nor does it represent a valid excuse for how much we choose to live. Growth is an inner journey,
We are often denying that our life is worth it as it is. That our awakening into wanting more from the future needs to come from the present moment, in the present. It is our thoughts that give us everything we have. Ownership of our own life can only happen now.
One morning you will wake up knowing that someday is here. How likely is for this to happen, knowing that it takes a new way of thinking to realize that tomorrow is today and that our projections over the future are just the present moment placed on pause? Look around and desperately seek for people who are happy in the now. Chances are you will find them, but they won’t be where you expect them to be because being happy is a choice we can make at any stage of our lives.
Taking responsibility takes courage and a strong sense of self. It is a trait of an honorable person. But what if you’ve learnt early on that by taking responsibility you expose yourself to the vulnerability of being blamed? Blame is a negative emotion and it sits at the opposite side of the spectrum from taking responsibility. If it’s being projected on us, it reveals feeling that the other person has difficulty dealing with. By taking responsibility you can set a barrier between what matters and the void of being trapped in the past. Blame doesn’t exist in the present moment.